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Does Your Definition Of Happy Make You Unhappy?

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Does Your Definition Of Happy Make You Unhappy?
While looking for what we think is going to make us happy we miss out on what happiness really is.

Jumping into the rat race may seem like the way to earn your happiness but it's killing people daily. Stress is one of the leading causes of failing health, unsuccessful relationships and crime.

What if we all had good health, successful relationships and an absence of crime?

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Would that make us happy? Possibly, but happiness is an inside job. It takes introspection and focus on who you truly are without concern for what others think and say about you.

We are great at blaming our unhappiness on someone or something else.

What if we simply adjust our definition of happy and take responsibility for finding it inside of us?

What if we allow ourselves to be happy even before we get the right promotion or man or make the right amount of money or buy the right vehicle or home?

What if we make a decision each day that our definition of happy is being able to list five things we are grateful for?

  1.     People who care about us (they don't have to be our perfect mate)
  2.     A beautiful sunset (we can enjoy it all by ourselves)
  3.     The opportunity to improve our physical health (we don't have to be our ideal weight)
  4.     Peace of mind in knowing we did our best at work and our intentions were positive (it doesn't have to be our ideal job or the best we've ever done)
  5.     The ability to pay for our life (even if there isn't much left over to play with)

Gratitude diminishes fear, expands our heart and destroys arrogance, which is born of low self esteem and keeps us stuck in a happiness-seeking rut, overlooking where it actually resides - inside.

Take a good look at what you think you need to obtain before you experience ongoing happiness. Is your definition of happiness making you unhappy?

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Kelly Rudolph
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Coach Kelly Rudolph walks her talk and implements her own personal growth plan on a dialy basis, translating into greater understanding, experience and strategies for her coaching clients.

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