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Shhhh...Why the Spotlight is not so bright.


I had my moment in the spotlight, but the very thing that got me there lead me to a very dark place.

When I was in my late 20's I had a memorable moment in the spotlight. I had the privilege of being a guest on a local morning TV show called, "Kelly & Company." You see, they ran a promo ad asking their viewers to call in if they knew anyone who was a "supermom." My best friend at the time called in and told them all about me! It's funny, I never considered myself at the time to be a super mom, nor was I trying to be. I was just imitating life...the life I had seen as a child. However, when I look back, I had three young children all exactly two years apart. I loved being a mom. I thought I was put on this earth to be a mom. I followed in my mother's footsteps in many ways. I was also quite the home maker. I made clothes for my children as well as myself, and made neck ties for my husband. I wallpapered, painted, made bedspreads and curtains. I even ran a small sewing business from my home. Whew! I'm tired just typing this. When I look back, I guess I would fit the description that moved my friend to make that call.

So the day finally arrives for our appearance on Kelly & Company. We take the stage and my friend begins to tell the audience about all of the things I do on a daily basis. She even told them that I made my outfit the night before. Marilyn Kelly then asked me to stand up and model my outfit. The audience applauded in disbelief. Here is my moment in the spotlight</b>! Shortly after, they asked for home viewers to call in with question or comments. I will never forget the comment made by one caller who said, "I used to be the same way." What she said next came back to haunt me, "You can't keep running at that pace. You will eventually give out and have a nervous breakdown like I did. It was my body's way of shutting down and saying you're doing too much!" I immediately thought to myself, "Oh that will never happen to me." The show continued and it was a wonderful experience.

After the show, I continued to wear the cape of super mom. About five years later, I found myself in the deep dark valley of depression. There are no capes in this valley. It seemed to be filled with Kryptonite, for my heart was heavy, my soul was empty and my outlook was bleak. I recognized that I had saved everyone but myself. Who would rescue me? It was during this time of darkness in my life, that I remembered <strong>my moment in the spotlight. However, my thoughts were not about the limo ride to the TV station, the green room, or the applause from the audience. This time, I did not see the spotlight as much as I heard the voice of wisdom that came from the caller, who said, "You can't continue at that pace, you will give out." It was those words that helped me find my way out of the darkness of depression and to leave the cape behind. After much soul searching and seeking Divine wisdom, I  was humbled and learned the second greatest command, "love my neighbor as I love MYSELF." (Luke 10:27) I recognized that I loved everyone else at the expense of myself. I now understand the beauty of self-care. I have learned how to fill myself up and give from a reservoir instead of painfully giving from an empty soul and spirit (cup). It is one of my passions in life to share the lesson learned from my moment in the spotlight with as many women as possible.  So I say ladies... Don't wait 5 years to take off your cape and fill your soul and spirit!

This article was originally published at Cathy Mott . Reprinted with permission from the author.


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