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21 Tips For Taking Care Of Yourself When You Feel Like Shutting Down

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Self-care is not something you do once in awhile.
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Self-care is not something you do once in awhile.

We’ve all been there: had a bad day at work, the kids won’t stop screaming and there is nothing in the fridge for dinner. It never ends. You feel like you will never catch up. Life is full of surprises. We can’t go back and we can’t predict the future.

You could be going through a tough time. Perhaps a recent breakup or a sudden move. You may also be struggling with anxiety or depression. If that is the case, it’s best to talk to a professional and get it properly treated. Causes of anxiety or depression vary from environmental to chemical.

Self-care is not something you do once in awhile. You need to get into the practice of taking care of yourself every day. This helps prevent burnout.

When you take care of yourself, you feel better about yourself, and it shows. Your family and friends will also notice.

Here are 21 suggestions on how to take care of yourself, so you won’t shut down:

1. Sleep on it.

You really need a good night’s rest. This will allow your body and your mind to revive.

2. Talk it out.

Call a friend or family member and talk about how you are feeling. Wait for their feedback.

3. Take a self-care day.

Call in sick, relax, and play during the day. Stay away from electronic gadgets. They will only make you feel like working.

4. Stop saying "yes" when you mean "no".

This will help with your self-care plan. Say "no" to extra obligations and chores, or better yet, delegate them.

5. Re-read your favorite books from childhood.

Spend time reminiscing about the good times from your childhood. It’s easy to remember the negative, so start remembering the positive.

6. Go to a museum.

There are some gorgeous pieces of art out there. Spend the day there and leave your phone at home.

7. Ask for help.

From whoever you need it from. Your boss, spouse, co-worker, pastor or friend. This does not mean you are weak.

8. Breathe slowly.

Stop and take a few deep breaths. Breathe into a count of four and out to a count of six.

9. Go for a walk.

You sit for most of the day and it’s usually under fluorescent light. Get out in the sunshine. You’ll love the benefits of Vitamin D.

10. Stay hydrated.

When was the last time you had a glass of water? Water is good for your body and your brain.

11. Take a bubble bath.

When was the last time you shut the door and just soaked in a tub? You can close your eyes and relax. You can also light a candle.

12. Read inspirational quotes.

You can always write them down and keep them with you. The next time you are feeling down, you can read one.

13. Write a list of 25 things you are grateful for.

Start with family and a roof over your head.

14. Spend a little money on yourself.

Buy the shoes, jewelry, or clothes you’ve been dying to have.

15. Look at photos of people and pets you love.

Set them up as wallpaper on your computer or phone.

16. Go to the park.

Sit in the sun on a blanket and read your favorite book.

17. Do absolutely nothing.

Shut off the lights and stare off into space, if you like. This will give your brain a break.

18. Allow yourself to cry.

If you need to.

19. Play with a child.

Get down on their level and play. You can go in the backyard and put your hands in the dirt or run through the sprinkler. Remember how fun that was as a child.

20. Develop a morning ritual for yourself.

My favorite is having a cup of coffee with my kitty. She sits on my lap and purrs. It’s a great way to start the day.

21. Write a letter to God.

When was the last time you had a conversation with God? He really does have your back. Let God know how you are feeling and what you need help in.

The purpose of this list is to help you get started in changing your mindset. Pick a few and start using them today. See which ones work best. We all go through tough times. That is actually normal. Try not to judge yourself for it.

Lianne Avila is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist in San Mateo, CA. She has helped many people that are on the brink of shutting down, turn things around. For a free 15-minute phone consultation or more information, please visit Lessons for Love.

This article was originally published at Lessons for Love. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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