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10 Signs You Are Not Taking Care Of Yourself

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I see it all the time, you will burn out when you don’t take care of yourself.

Taking care of yourself is one of the best things you can do for your health. And, I’m not just talking physically. I’m talking mentally, as well. Taking care of yourself is not selfish. You should not feel guilty about it.

It really is true, you can’t take care of anybody else unless you have taken care of yourself. I see it all the time, you will burn out when you don’t take care of yourself. Why do so many of you put yourself last on the list to be taken care of? Is it an old mindset? There is really no good reason to put yourself last.

Here are 10 signs you are not taking care of yourself:

  1. You’re easily frustrated in your relationships. You find yourself getting mad or snapping at others for no reason. You’re even surprised at how irritable you’ve become, and you worry the wrong people are taking the hit.
  2. You’re more tired than energized throughout the day.
  3. You worry all the time, you’re on edge and easily agitated. You feel squeezed or compressed from all angles.
  4. You’re friends and loved ones are pulling away from you.
  5. You don’t feel creative and are lacking inspiration. You no longer want to try new things.
  6. You don’t love doing the things you used to do.
  7. You are abandoning your desires and dreams. And, instead put your partner’s (and everyone else’s) first.
  8. You are not able to understand how your behavior affects yourself and others.
  9. Your actions don’t line up with your desires and dreams.
  10. You rely on caffeine, painkillers, or wine to get you through the day.

If you answered yes or related to any of these, then it is time to recharge your batteries. Your body is like a car, it needs fuel to run. When a car runs out of fuel, it will stop and so will you. The better you treat yourself, the better you will feel. This will help when things are difficult. It will also help with your attitude.

You can start by talking with family and friends. It helps to talk to others when you are feeling down or overwhelmed. If you’re ready, take the leep and meet with a counselor or life coach. They can help you clarify how you are feeling and what to do next.

Take a vacation or go on a retreat. This will help you feel calm. It will also satisfy your need for adventure. These days you don’t have to spend a lot of money. With a little research, you will find the perfect getaway. Remember, this is a vacation. Which means you aren’t checking your phone every five minutes. If possible, shut it off.

Purge, and then rebuild. Clutter is not good for the mind. It’s also not good for the people around you. When you let go of the old, you make room for the new. I’m not just saying get rid of the physical stuff around you. Maybe, it’s time to let go of some toxic relationships or people in your life. You can also let go of bad memories and negative thought patterns, you hold on to. Surround yourself with things and people you love.

Socialize and connect with others. As human beings, we all desire to connect with others. Go to new events. Say yes to an invitation, when you would normally say no. It’s important to try new things. If you haven’t heard from your family or friends in a while. Take the iniative and invite them out. You could go out for dinner or go to a concert.

Be honest with yourself. Whose fault is it, that you aren’t taking care of yourself? One of the beautiful things about being a human being, is our ability to change course when we desire. If you aren’t feeling fulfilled, this is a great way to start living the life you have always wanted.

Lianne Avila is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, in San Mateo, CA. She is here to help you when life becomes stressful. For more information, please visit www.LessonsforLove.com.

 

This article was originally published at www.lessonsforlove.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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