Warning: This One Flaw Can End Your Romance


Warning: This One Flaw Can End Your Romance
The one biggest mistake made in relationships and how to avoid doing it.
  • Make a point of calling your spouse every day just to say hello and see how their day is going. (And give them your undivided attention during the entire length of the call)
  • Send a “love text” every day just to let them know you are thinking of them.
  • Leave a note next to his/her  pillow saying something sweet and/or wishing them a wonderful day.
  • Tackle some chore around the house that you know means a lot to them.
  • Surprise them with a gift.  Maybe their favorite meal, some flowers, or an item that you know they will love.
  • Make time to just cuddle or hold hands while out and about or relaxing together. 
  • When in their company, make eye contact with them the entire time they are speaking to you and respond back to them so they know you have really heard what they have said to you.  This last one seems so easy, and yet…. it is the one thing that is often missing in many couple’s communication.

Since you may need a reminder to do some of those things you have in mind, consider ways to help with this by perhaps setting a daily alarm on your phone or write yourself little sticky notes that you place on your desk at work or around your home.  Find ways that work with your life style and comfort level using technology.   Seek professional coaching or work with a counselor who is well versed in the problems that are associate with having ADHD, if needed.   Don’t forget that in the end, the greatest gift you can give your partner is your undivided attention and willingness to be completely present to them.  I can bet that incorporating  these concepts into your daily life and making them habits, will greatly enhance the quality of your marriage as well as your ability to grow closer over time.  


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