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Why Ben Affleck was Right (and Wrong) about Marriage


Why Ben Affleck was Right (and Wrong) about Marriage
Do you buy into the idea that you have to work at your marriage? Find out why you might be wrong.

When you take the time to really plan your marriage together as partners, you will be able to move more efficiently and effortlessly as a team.  It won't mean you'll never have any challenges in your relationship, but having a game plan will make them more manageable.

I believe that's what Ben Affleck meant by it being "the best kind of work".  Most of the time the effort should be light and easy so the energy and desire is there when real "work" is required.

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Lesli Doares

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Lesli Doares, MFT

Lesli writes about issues related to marriage and relationships at afearlessmarriage.com.  She is the author of Blueprint for a Lasting Marriage:  How to Create Your Happily Ever After with More Intention, Less Work, a manual for couples on how to have a long and successful marriage.  Lesli also speaks passionately on many relationship-related topics.

Location: Cary, NC
Credentials: LMFT
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