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The Key To Overcome Overwhelming Sadness In Your Daily Life


We can overcome overwhelm by letting go and letting love.

So, I have a dog, Chloe.  Chloe is a beautiful, sweet, midnight black, 40 pounds of intimidating looking mix breed, and I’m convinced that part of that mixing included a cat at some point, she is so feline in nature.  

She loves to lie in the sun, generally lounge around, and when I am sitting on the sofa with my feet on the coffee-table, she loves to force herself under my legs so she can get her back massaged. One of Chloe’s less endearing feline qualities, however, is that she is perfectly un-trainable. Despite being sent off to two different doggie boot camps, that she has never done a single thing we commanded her to do when we commanded it. Every single thing she does must be her idea, and if she is going to do anything it will be in her timing, not ours.  

While we may not have people around us telling to sit and stay (or maybe we do), many of us do get hit with a barrage of demands from other people, situations and responsibilities on a daily basis and each demand can add up until we hit overwhelming sadness.  

For example, before I am even ready to wake up my dogs are demanding to go outside, the alarm then demands again that I get up. The children demand to be fed and clothed, their school demands that I get the children there after 7:45 a.m., but before 7:55 a.m.  Then there are hundreds of emails that require attention, the telephone calls that require answering and fielded, the vendors that either want attention or want to get paid, the husband that never eats a proper breakfast and is looking for lunch before he passes out, and all the other demands of the work day.  

Yet that just gets us through part of the day. Never mind the responsibilities we have towards family members, neighbors, friends, community, home, pets, and of course our own soul that we simply must not neglect.  

When we wear many hats, and most of do, we often times find ourselves being pulled mercilessly in many different directions, frequently at the same time and this easily leads us right into overwhelm. Much like my dog Chloe, when I hit overwhelm I just want to lay down in complete and utter protest, which is okay for a minute, but it is not really a viable solution.

The good news is that there are other options to overcoming overwhelm other than throwing a passive-aggressive fit. One such option is to hand it over to the Divine Creator, God, the Universe, or whatever your preferred name is. You may have heard the phrase, “Let go and let God,” which sounds so simple and it really is, the only challenge to implementing this process is to actually believe and trust that what you have released has already been taken care of in a manner that is in your highest and best interest.  

A helpful approach to implementing this process is to take a sheet of paper and draw a line down the center.  On the left side of the page write “I Got This” and underneath list all of the responsibilities you will attend to, and on the right side of the paper write “God’s Got This” or “The Universe Has This” and underneath this heading, list all of the responsibilities that you would like assistance with.  

The next step is the challenging part, you must trust. Trust that your submitted request has already been taken care of. In fact, I recommend saying “Thank You,” in advance of seeing any evidence that your request for help has been granted. We must believe before we can see.

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This article was originally published at LeNae Goolsby. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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