“If I could only loose these last 5 (10, or 15) pounds, I would be able to meet someone” or, “When I lose 10 pounds, I am going to start dating again.” Have you ever made such a promise to yourself, only to find that you were unable to lose the weight you determined was necessary to date, and if you did, you would soon gain it back, and maybe a few pounds extra?
This is what happens to Aaron. The thought of what it would feel like to have someone special in her life makes her feel so good until she takes a look at herself in the mirror. “How could anyone I want to date find me attractive?” Do you ever have the same thought as Aaron, and feel discouraged, or frustrated at the reflection starring back at you?
Aaron had struggled with her weight most of her life. The more she focused on it, the more it consumed her. Everything she did was influenced by how she felt about her physical body, and how she perceived herself being ‘seen’ by others. This is The Law of Attraction in Action. It absorbed a phenomenal amount of her mental, emotional, and physical energy. Not to mention the cost of depending on something outside herself in an attempt to make her situation better; the latest diet pill, diet, or work out that promises amazing results. How you ever been there, done that? How did it work out for you?
For, Aaron not so well. She realized it was time to try a different approach, and started telling a different story; one that supported what she wanted, and not what she was currently living, or afraid she couldn’t make happen. Her first step: She accepted her weight. Every pound. In accepting her weight, she was accepting herself. In her self-acceptance, she was inspired to do what was necessary to help herself feel better for her sake. This included reassessing what I call the Trilogy of Health and Well being: emotional management, nutritional choices, and exercise.
The differentiator is not how much you weigh; it is whether or not you feel happy and healthy in the skin you’re in.
Having said that, it isn’t the weight that is keeping you from having a sweet love, it is how you feel about your body, and how that translates into how you live your life regardless of what you feel is the perfect weight for you. If you are not happy with who you are right now, losing weight is not going to change that. This is why diets do not work. It is the relationship you have with yourself that determines whether or not the weight you take off stays off. In fact, the relationship you have with yourself determines the quality of everything moment in your life.
Here are 6 tips to help you love yourself into being the weight you desire for your sake. With this approach, a love that lasts will follow.
• Be aware of the things you say to yourself about your weight and dating. Do your thoughts uplift you, or make you feel miserable. If it’s the latter . . .
• Know that the more you focus on your weight from a place of worry, anxiety, or fear of not being able to sustain your goal once you achieve it, the more likely you will re-recreate the cycle of gaining and loosing. This is The Law of Attraction in Action. So . . .