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Choose Holiday Magic Instead of Holiday Madness


If you don't look at it as a stressful season, it doesn't have to be!

The holidays are upon us, and I'm hearing how stressed out everyone is. Just yesterday alone, I heard four people tell me how overwhelmed they feel. They told me that their 'To-Do' lists are long, and their already full plates are even fuller.

Why do people get so stressed this time of year?

First, we conclude that the holidays are stressful, and we therefore create tons of evidence to prove this to be true. You hear it all of the time. "Wow! The holidays are so stressful!" or "This is the most stressful time of year for me." It's important to know that where you place your attention is what you experience. Therefore, place attention on what you want versus what you don't want or fear.

Second, we believe that we're "obligated" to do, buy, or make, and that we have "responsibilities" to take care of. Isn't that interesting? Because no one is pointing a gun at your head and saying, "You must do this or you will die now!" The truth is, you're actually choosing it all. You were not born with obligation and responsibilities. These are beliefs that are learned from your parents, schools, religion, society, etc. “Choosing” to do something feels much lighter than "having to do" something. Therefore, just by re-framing what you say to yourself begins the de-stressing process.

Research shows that it only takes just a couple of minutes of meditation to still the mind and create more peace throughout your day. So let's dump some holiday stress now and begin a quick, yet effective, calming meditation. Sit in a comfortable chair and plant your feel firmly on the floor. Have your spine erect yet relaxed. Put your hands on your lap with palms up.

Inhale deeply as if you're filling up your head with your breath. Hold your breath and notice the stillness at the top of your inhale... exhale and let your thoughts flow down your arms and out your fingertips. (Repeat 2 more times.) Good, you're beginning to calm the mind.

Inhale deeply and fill up your lungs to open your heart center. Hold your breath and notice the quiet energy at the top of your inhale... exhale and let your stress flow down your arms and out your fingertips. (Repeat 2 more times.) Feel yourself getting more relaxed with each breath.

Inhale deeply and fill up your belly to anchor your energy. Hold your breath and notice the energy vibration at the top of your inhale…exhale and release the stagnant energy from your body by letting it flow down your legs and out your toes. (Repeat 2 more times…) There, you really are letting go now. Good for you.

Tips For Creating Holiday Magic

1. Repeat the above breathing technique often.

2. Repeat these mantras often:
"This holiday, I choose calm, I have calm, I am calm."
"This holiday, I choose fun, I have fun, I am calm."
"This holiday, I choose joy, I have joy, I am joy."
"This holiday, I choose peace, I have peace, I am peace."

3. For the rest of your holiday be calm, be fun, be joy, and be peace. You deserve it all. Happy Holidays!

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This article was originally published at Tamara Green. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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