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3 Surefire Ways To Improve Communication With Your Partner

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Effective communication is the key to any successful relationship.

We're always told how important good communication is to make a relationship work, but what does this really mean? On the surface, it seems straightforward and logical, right? So you and your partner need to talk and express your feelingsbe open, direct and honest.

Easier said than done! Add human emotion, different backgrounds/personalities and personal limitations into the mix, and many couples are left feeling conflicted and helpless.

Good communication does not usually come naturally in a long-term relationship, and both partners need to work on getting their communication momentum right to achieve a harmonious relationship.

Here are three communication tips to help you along the way:

1. Listen to what your partner is saying.

It is very important to listen to each other. This cannot be stressed enough. How are couples supposed to fulfill each other's needs if there is no reciprocal listening? This type of listening is not simply hearing words, rather it involves empathy, sensitivity and understanding of the message that your partner is trying to convey.

2. Act on what you've heard.

Once you have heard and understand what your partner is trying to say, act on it. If its something that involves a change in your relationship, or in a behavior that is bothering your partner, there is no better way to show that you care than by working on changing the issue.

3. Appreciate your partner's efforts.

Whenever you see your partner making an effort to listen to you, act on what you have communicated and even communicate well with you, don't forget to say, "Thank you," and to show appreciation for the effort that he/she is putting into your relationship. Wouldn't you be happy if your partner did the same for you?


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