But first and foremost I am a wife and a mother. I can honestly say that my family is my first and top priority.
Enter problem. Did you notice my priority list so far? See anything - or anyone - missing? I didn't either. Until I started to get so tired that I remembered one important person I was forgetting. Me.
So, I've been embarking on a new journey to take better care of myself. Not the typical New Year's resolution, guilt-ridden, "I-should-take better-care-of-myself-so-I'll-work-out-like-a-fiend-for-three-weeks-and-then-give-up" bit. This had to be different - true slow-paced self-care, taken little steps at a time. So far, the steps are no-brainers: more rest, better food choices, and regular, gentle exercise.
In this spirit, I've been walking at one of our neighborhood parks a couple of times a week while my 5 year-old twin girls are in school. Sometimes I walk with a friend, sometimes alone, but I am trying to do it on a consistent basis.
Last week I went for one of my walks. It was a beautiful spring day, with bright sunshine and enough of a cool breeze to make the walk very pleasant. The park I visit has a large pond, more like a small lake, in the center, and my walk takes me all the way around the pond, usually a few times.
On this day as I was passing the south end of the pond, I noticed little balls of fluff frolicking at the shoreline. They were ducklings, and there were six of them. In the middle of them was their mother, a smooth brown mallard.
Here's the kicker: she was sleeping. Sleeping! I couldn't believe it. Here she was, right at the water's edge, surrounded by her feisty brood, and she had tucked her head around her back, snugly fit her bill between her feathers, and was taking a snooze.
How could she sleep? Wasn't she worried? Granted, they were ducklings, but they were still playing in the water, unsupervised, swimming out and coming back, getting into little skirmishes with each other...and she slept through it all, unfazed. I realized I needed to do some thinking about why I was envious and in awe...of a duck.
Now, maybe nature creates some lazy duck moms, but I don't think so. Instead, I think this little duck was there to remind me: you must take care of yourself. The truth is, she knew they were safe. She was sleeping, yes, but she was standing, not sitting, and she was right there with the ducklings, but she still took the opportunity to rest amidst the craziness. Do ducks feel guilt? It sure didn't look like it. A lesson for me, I thought. As a mom especially, taking care of yourself can't wait.
After watching for a few minutes and taking some pictures on my phone, I kept on going. Behind me, others had gathered to watch the cute baby ducks and their momma. She was roused by this activity, and with some loud quacks ushered her brood into the water and down the pond.