5. You talk so the other is able to listen.
So how do you talk about the tough stuff? Healthy resolution of conflict involves honest and respectful communication, a willingness to look at your own contribution, and the ability to know if you need to take a time-out and come back to it later. If anger comes up, you may need time (20-30 minutes is usually good) to cool so you don't say something in the heat of the moment that you might later regret.
—Laurel Fay, Counselor/Therapist
6. You feel free from retaliation or judgment.
Healthy relationships provide a feel-good atmosphere of support, encouragement, teamwork and love. This support and encouragement leads to a higher level of comfort whereby you are able to clearly express yourself without fear of retaliation or judgment.
7. You feel like yourself—your best self.
Healthy relationships align with your core beliefs, convictions and overall chosen style of life. In a healthy relationship, you never have to worry about changing yourself in order make the relationship function. You also never have to worry about losing your partner when you decide to make some changes. There's no need to be someone else, do something that makes you feel uncomfortable, or act in a certain way. You often hear yourself saying or thinking, "This relationship brings out the best in me."
8. Your quality of life is higher because you're together.
Healthy relationships improve your quality of life. Are you growing? Are you wiser? Are you more mature? Have you modified your behaviors into a more positive manner? Has your attitude and overall outlook on your life and goals improved? If you are saying yes to these questions, you are in a healthy relationship.
9. You don't have to be attached at the hip.
Trusting habits are demonstrated in healthy relationships. That means you are not going through her phone, checking his email, having to be by his side everywhere he goes in order to keep an eye on what he's doing. Instead, you are able to freely allow him/her to do whatever he/she wants to do. In return, your time is spent doing what you want to do. And if/when those two wants cross (i.e. you want to spend time with him and he wants to spend time with you)—you'll be together...and that's the bonus. You often hear yourself thinking or saying, "I trust your decision making." Problems With Intimacy? Retrain Your Brain
—Jennifer Tardy, Life/Relationship Coach