Have you put yourself at the top of your TO DO list? Chances are if you are a busy woman you may have skipped that item. If you’re reading this article, then you’re worn out, frustrated or simply wondering how to put yourself (or help a friend put herself) at the top of the “to do” list. Before you start justifying that you don’t have the time, consider instead being creative with the time you do have.
Whether you have kids, seniors or a spouse you’re caring for, the most important thing you can do for them is take extra special care of yourself. Think about setting a positive example for your kids. First you will be role modeling how to take care of oneself. By the way, that means you don’t want to be stressed when you’re telling them you’re doing something for yourself. Plus, when you take care of yourself, you are more joyful, vibrant and energetic and they get the benefit of that.
Tip 1: Remember to Breathe and Take Conscious Breathing Moments
Moments during your day can serve as self-care moments. Simply focus on your breathing. Try it right now. Count to 4 slowly as you inhale, and then even slower when you exhale. Take an extra 2 seconds to notice how good that feels. Viola you are in the mode programming your brain to enjoy taking moments for yourself.
Tip 2: Royalty Never Rushes
Keep in mind that the feeling of rushing is frantic and very energy consuming. Recently, a friend of mine and I were on our way to a dinner. The party had already started before we left and she was frustrated with every driver along the way. I turned to her and said, “Royalty never rushes.” I watched the speedometer decrease a bit and the rest of the trip over was relaxed, calm and enjoyable.
Try saying that to yourself the next time you are frustrated with others while driving. You might even find yourself letting in other people in front of you. Oh and you’ll arrive in about the same time and feel better for having given yourself the gift of a safer relaxed ride.
Tip 3: Schedule a Girls Night In
When women gather and gab and connect it is a highly nurturing experience. Actually, a neurochemical change happens in a woman’s body during socially connective experiences. Oxytocin is released in the body. This hormone helps women deal with stress in a more calm way. So it’s important to get your oxytocin boost and you’ll be amazed at how the stress reduces. Of course, the most common ways to increase oxytocin is via sexual relations with someone you are in a connected relationship with and breastfeeding. But, nurturing yourself and connecting with your women friends in general is a great way to relax and offer yourself some soothing self-care.
You might even look into getting a set of Feminine Power Cards that offer ideas for you and your friends to discuss and ways to bring self-care into the forefront of your life.
Tip 4: Use your existing “break times” for YOU