Are you looking for a Date or a Playdate


Are you looking for  a Date or a Playdate
Single again and looking for love. But, is “love” what you are really looking for?
  • There are no good men out there...
  • Dating sucks...
  • Our expectations are clearly too high...

A “date” should be when you are ready for love again; and most of us are not ready when we think we are.  Therefore, dating becomes a misery; and you know exactly what I am talking about.

So instead of launching into dating or withdrawing from the possibility of it, let me suggest identifying how you really feel and get clear on what would make you feel whole again.


Try out a “playdate”.  Perhaps you want to enjoy the company of a man while doing the things you love to do, like going to a wine tasting, concert or museum.  Or perhaps you can go running, biking, hiking or skiing together.

Better yet, a “playdate” is someone with whom you can reclaim your mastery of flirtation, sensuality and even sex.  Yes, I said

The outcome of a “playdate” is to gain confidence in your dating skill set WHILE you are regrouping and rebuilding your own life after a breakup.  The goal is not long-lasting love, but rather the excitement, joy and extreme fun of connection again.

When you have found yourself, your confidence, courage, and overflowing love of your own life, you will be ready to “date” again.  You will truly be ready for love.

Both are wonderful, fun, and critical to the journey you are on to create your next chapter.


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Laura Campbell

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