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Make Your Life Count And Pursue Your Dreams

Happy Life

You must do the things you think you cannot do. - Eleanor Roosevelt

Do you want to be 87 on your death bed saying that you wished you had risked more in your life?  Many times when we have a dream, a vision, we don’t know where to start to realize it. We are over-whelmed by the magnitude and the grandeur of it and feel really stuck.  However, most of the time when we feel blocked in an area of our life, it is because we feel safer that way.  We may not be happy, but at least we know what we are — unhappy — it is familiar and we become paralyzed by any of movement into the unknown.

So! What is your vision? What gets in the way? Where is your dream? Is it buried under a pile of "shoulds," surfacing occasionally to create a tug within, to be pushed down again.  Do you expect to be less busy later with more time to reflect?  Is there a yearning within, that you think you should not have because after all-life is good, and who am I to want more?  Are you waiting until your primary support system says you need to cut back on all that you do for us, and carve out some personal time to do something that makes your heart sing?  They won’t do that and even if you find the courage to address your needs, do not expect support.  Its because people like things the way they are, may become threatened if you initiate change and may overtly or covertly sabotage efforts, to bring things back to the way they have always been, safe.

Where to start?  It has to start with you and the very first step is a decision by you, an intention  that you count and your dreams are important.  Next time I’ll continue with ways to get clarity and later how to recognize and deal with resistance.

Laura’s “Overcome Obstacles and Have an Incredible Life“ offers boundless guidance, addresses doubts, fears and uncertainties that  may be keeping you stuck and wondering if you have missed your chance to be happy. You have not!  Read or hear more at


This article was originally published at Laura B. Young . Reprinted with permission from the author.


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