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You Won't Know How To Be Truly Happy In Life Until You Do THIS


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"If you ask me what I came into this life to do, I will tell you: I came to live out loud." - Emile Zola

This quote spoke to me in a powerful way. After reflecting on its resonant message, I felt as though I had  been given permission at a deep level to finish doing what I have been struggling with all of my adult life, to fully express, to believe that what I feel does count, to be truly happy with my life.

Having grown up in a strict Irish Catholic, family, community, and Church the messages for children were unwavering, and clear.

“Be seen and not heard”

“Who do you think you are to want this or that?”

Add to that mix the fact that I spent several years in an orphanage with nuns who enforced many hours of silence on a daily basis.  Nobody ever asked how are you doing? What do you think about this rule or that problem?

As I remember those years I see myself in a corner reading, reading, whatever I could get my hands on.  The upside of those years is a love of reading, learning and now sharing hopefully to help others to come out of their shadowy places to give them permission to live out loud.

This kind of background fed a belief that it was dangerous to express. If you spoke up there could be serious repercussions unless one was in total agreement. As you can see I had a large healing job to do to extract myself from faulty, beliefs rules and injunctions.

I continue to work on these issues sometimes with confidence and sometimes with an old familiar tentativeness; however, I do it, I push on.  I found this quote validating and freeing - may you have a similar response.

May you live the life you came to live out loud.  Blessings, Laura

This quote also inspired a "Self-Help Article" I called “Live out Loud.”

Laura’s “Overcome Obstacles and Have an Incredible Life“ offers boundless guidance, addresses doubts, fears and uncertainties that  may be keeping you stuck and wondering if you have missed your chance to be happy. You have not!  Read or hear more at

This article was originally published at Laura B. Young. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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