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3 Rules You Have to Break to Live an Incredible Life — Rule #1


Only 3 Rules Away from a Life of Abundance, Love, Passion and Joy

Even if you have tried many strategies and failed;

Know that your time and efforts have not been wasted.

All of your story has brought you to this perfect place and time, for a new beginning.

Breaking these rules and following the subsequent steps shared have the power to bring you a life beyond your dreams.  Some may consider your life a miracle.

Where do I begin? Begin where you are right now!

You are only 3 Rules away from creating an incredible life!

If you do not break these powerful rules, you're likely to stay in a place of wondering “is this all there is”? 

Begin with breaking these 3 critical, foundational rules. Once you become aware of how other people’s rules are holding you back, and if you break even one; you have started on a new path.

Taking one step is never just one step, although it is the hardest and a most important one. The first step has the power to change you, thus change your life.

At Last! - 3 Rules to break in order to find your true happiness

I am grateful that you’ve taken time to be here. I feel strongly that you are a seeker; wanting more in your life. You want to be happier and you want some answers. If you feel stuck in any area of your life, you are in the right place.

Here are the three rules I am suggesting you break, if you want a life of abundance:

Rule 1. Rebel against other People’s Second Hand Rules

Rule 2. Go Beyond the “American Dream”

Rule 3. Stop Trying to “Fit In”

I have broken the three rules that I am asking you to examine and break. I shudder to think of what my life would be like, today, if I had not risked breaking them.

The word rebel or rebelliousness is often given an air of negativity; however, rebellion is part of the American character. Without rebellion there would be no USA today.

A more positive definition says that a rebel is a person who stands up for what they value despite the urging of other people to be quiet. A true rebel stands up for what they believe, not to be against others, but to take a stand for what they believe is the best course for them, even if it’s uncomfortable.

For those of you who are hesitant to break rules, what I’m asking you to consider, goes against prevailing guidance. You, like the rest of us more than likely, break rules all the time, consciously and unconsciously.

Sometimes not knowing ourselves well enough, we live by other people’s ideas, conditions, rules and we unwittingly repeat our struggles. We get caught up in a merry go round of problems, making it difficult to get free.

Are you at a point in your life where you wonder is this all there is?

Do you ask yourself or doubt that you can be happier?

Do you think you are as happy as you are going to be?

Do you find yourself repeating patterns and relationships that cause pain and struggle?

Do you find yourself lonely or isolating?

Are you someone who works hard but never quite gets ahead?

Do you stay in relationships that are toxic because you believe in a rule that says ‘you made your bed now lie in it’?

Do you think abundance is for others but not for you?

If you answer yes to any of the above questions, then you’re at the right place.

Many of the struggles you are having are because you are covered up with other people’s rules. Unless you stop and reflect, it is difficult to figure out whose rules you are living by.
Many programs are literally downloaded into us from infancy. When we get to a certain age; if our life isn’t working out as we had hoped, it’s important to stop, reflect and figure out if we’re living our own life, or one that somebody else expects of us.

Breaking these rules would give you a chance to push out your frame of reference in order to come to terms with the life you want to live?

We often get lulled into believing something is real when actually it is an illusion, or somebody else’s idea of what is real.

How many times have you followed a path suggested by others only to come to the end of it and continue to be unhappy? How can you be happy really if you listen to someone else’s idea of a career you should follow, the man you should marry or the church you should join?

When does it become the life that you want?

Will you risk finding out?

The first rule I ask you to break is to rebel; to rebel for; not against.

Of course the first part of rebelling is really against, as we have to be against something, to go and grow towards. Go towards; after we rebel against.  I am asking you to rebel against other people’s ‘shoulds’, second hand rules, beliefs, and  ways of conditioning passed down as if it were the ‘right’ way, from family, schools, churches, and community.

To have a full happy life you have to be willing to examine and to let go of other people’s rules that no longer serve you if they ever did.

Breaking rules is not about deserting your family of origin or rejecting them. We are all interconnected.  In the beginning, we come in truly helpless and we have to lean against other people’s support, rules and conditioning, in order to survive.

Trouble happens when we become old enough to question the rules we’re living by and we don’t do so. Are they right for who we are now, as well as who we are becoming?

Do you follow blindly, what other people believe is right for you?  Do you stop and reflect? Do you have a sense of what you’re here to do? The courage comes in following that intuition, that knowing, inner belief in yourself.

Do you give yourself permission, inner and outer, to follow your dreams? Allow yourself to revisit dreams that you have pushed down once more.

Sometimes we do not express our dreams in the same way as we thought we would at an earlier time, however usually some version of that dream is still alive.

If you do not believe that you need permission, look at your life patterns. Do you ever try to persuade somebody to agree with you, when you decide shake up the status quo?

Do you find yourself waiting, waiting until? Is yours a pattern of waiting to get permission, overt, or covert, from others, before you step into change?

To continue for a more in-depth understanding of the importance of breaking these rules, go here to download my free audio, and transcript whereby I cover the 3 rules in-depth.

If you’re ready to break some rules and clear obstacles to happiness out of your life, my work guides you, and gives you strategies to have speedy results. Treat yourself. Today!

You are only 3 Rules away from creating an incredible life!

This article was originally published at Laura B Young. Reprinted with permission from the author.


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