3. Sexual Boredom
Women want more out of their sexual relationships than having sex in the same place, the same way, and at the same time. A predictable sex life is generally associated with a boring sex life which can lead to dissatisfaction. Sexual boredom is the most likely cause for the statement "Not tonight, honey."
What Can Be Done:
Think outside the box. Instead of relegating sex strictly to the bedroom, change it up a bit. Your house is filled with rooms and furniture, use them for sex. You will be amazed at the thrill that simply moving your fun to another room can inspire. Try a new sexual position. There is always excitement in trying new and different things. Awaken your sexual diva by taking charge of your sexual experiences to keep boredom away. 9 Sex Positions That Enhance Emotional Intimacy
4. I Don't Feel Sexy Anymore
Many women are not satisfied with the look and feel of their bodies. In America, there is a bit of an obsession with body image. There are unrealistic expectations of being a certain size and looking a certain way. Some women don't feel sexy or attractive because of their perceptions about their bodies. These beliefs then cross over into their sexual world and hinder them from experiencing satisfaction. There was a study recently published in The Journal of Sex Research that found that the emphasis in American culture on being young and thin is more influential than menopause when it comes to sexual satisfaction.
What Can Be Done:
Follow the tried and true rule: "Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative." Find those things you like about your body and yourself and focus on those areas. When you look in the mirror, stop looking at the flaws and begin looking at the things you admire about yourself. Tell yourself how beautiful you are. Even if you don't believe it at first, in time you will not only believe it, but you will feel it. Once you begin to feel it, you will want to share it with your beloved.
5. Sexual Frustration
Many women are sexually frustrated because they are not getting what they want and need sexually. Most women want more foreplay, more intimacy and for their partners to last longer. When a woman feels like a "piece of meat" or a "mounting block" she is less likely to be turned on to experience sexual pleasure, which in turn results in a lack of satisfaction.
What Can Be Done:
Ask for what you want. Conversations about sex should be had long before the act. When you are aware of what you want and need, it is imperative to let your partner know. Contrary to popular belief, your partner doesn't automatically know what turns you on sexually or what you need to be satisfied.
To really make this advice work, you need to follow these action steps to complete today's challenge.
Right now, I want you to:
Write down the things that are keeping you from having a satisfying sex life, and what you are willing to do today to change things. Next I would like for you to share these things with your partner.
Within 7 days I want you to:
Begin making the changes that will improve the quality of your sex life. Write down what would be an idea sexual experience for you, and make it your purpose to have at least one satisfying sexual experience this week.
By the end of the challenge I want you to:
Feel rejuvenated about your sex life and continue to be intentional about making it satisfying. Prioritize your sex life by keeping the distractions at bay. Be intentional about having satisfying sexual experiences. Have a minimum of four sexually satisfying experiences this month, even if you have to add them to your calendar. Lastly, continue to desire a satisfying sex life beyond the end of this challenge.