If you have False Attractions be wary of the people you have strong chemistry with. Instead, look for the person that is visually and mentally interesting to you, especially if there is no chemistry. Be alert to some simple tests for energetic compatibility. Notice how easy it is to communicate. Does the person ware you down or boost your energy? Do you feel like you are in sync with each other mentally? Go on a few dates. Hold hands, Enjoy long embraces. Tango. Seriously, the dance is a perfect metaphor because one of the best tests for compatibility, and to experience a more powerful connection than chemistry, happens with an embrace on the dance floor.
One of my favorite stories is about a couple that worked with each other for over a year. They would go to a coffee shop every day for lunch. They became very close and trusting friends. One day by chance the guy reached across the table and grabbed the hand of his lady friend. They never let go and married within the next year. They are still together today. That was over 4 years ago.
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Now that you understand how chemistry pulls your strings you get to embrace it and use it to your advantage. This means being more aware than you’ve ever been before.
If you pay close attention and take the time to truly see the person you are dating, Not with rose colored glasses. Not from an image of them which you want them to be. But for who they are in the moment, then you have the greatest potential of experiencing true love.
Love in the now and your hearts will celebrate together.
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Warning: Please be leery of any program that promises to restore the attraction of an ex. If there was chemistry and it faded, there is probably a very good energetic reason. Trying to restore it is a sure fire way to jump right back into the fantasy that blew up the first time around. Yes, you may have grown up, changed your behaviors and become more sensitive. This may be where you went wrong in the past but it’s rarely the whole picture. Back away completely for at least a month or three and be true to yourself.