Happy 2013! Are You Excited To Go Back To Work Or Wish To Stay Home? 7 Questions To Ask Yourself
Now that the holidays are over we are all getting back to work again. I’m wondering, how you feel about going back to the daily grind?
Of course, for some of us going to work is a welcome reprise from the holidays. But for other’s I suspect that you are not looking forward to going back to work.
Either way, life I short. And if 1/3 of our time is spent at work, 1/3 of our time is spent outside of work and 1/3 of our time is spent sleeping, those 2/3 of our time spent awake needs to be the joyous and meaningful. Work needs to be meaingful, joyous and non-stressful and our personal life, family, friends, activities, creativity, etc. needs to be meaningful, joyous and non-stressful.
If you are dreading going back to work ask yourself:
- Am I unhappy because of work conditions; ie. bad boss, being stuck in a cubicle etc?
- Am I unhappy at work because I am doing work that is not satisfying or meaningful to me?
- What keeps me there? Put a name to the fear that stops you from making the changes you need to make.
- If the job situation is good and your work unhappiness comes from something inside you, then ask yourself this: “Why haven’t I sought out some help to sort this out for myself? Why do I just keep trudging along and creating suffering for myself?
If you were unhappy at home at are relieved to go back to work then ask yourself:
- What is the source of my unhappiness at home? Is it my relationship with my partner? The lack of a partner? My kids? Get specific.
- Conversely, what am I doing with my attitude, my way of thinking, my habits and behaviors that are contributing to my unhappiness. Again be specific.
- Then once again ask yourself: “Why haven’t I sought out some help to sort this out for myself? Why do I just keep trudging along and creating suffering for myself?
Take some time as part of this New Year’s passage to 2013 to ask yourself these questions. Then decide to act. Make your New Years resolution a resolution to make meaningful and positive change in your life!
Perhaps you relate to what these people experienced:
- Joe has a brilliant career. In his early 40s he’s a partner in a law firm and well respected by his customers and his coworkers. His personal life is another matter. He’s been divorced twice and his current wife is telling him that something needs to change or he’ll be divorced again. Joe loves his wife but he also knows that even though he knows how to be a good partner in a law firm he doesn’t know how to be a good partner in a marriage.
- Ken is a rising star in a large utility corporation. As a director of finance he is younger then many of his pears. Due to his willingness to work hard and bulldog-like insistence on getting each little detail right he is trusted with many important projects for his company. As he puts it: “I like my work. I’m good at it and it feels good to be well respected. Yet I’m miserable. I am so stressed out that I have trouble sleeping. I worry constantly that I’ll screw up and get fired. My temper has gotten so bad I’m arguing with my wife and kids over stupid things. I can’t keep living like this.”
- Mac is a successful manager in a state government office. He loves his job and thought he was leading a charmed life. He comes from a loving and supportive family and was in his 10th year of realtionship with his life partner. He recently discovered that his partner is having an affair and wanted to end their relationship. His work started to suffer and he felt like his life was falling apart.
I am so passionate about this that I’m focusing my work with people towards Personal Success Coaching for Successful Professionals. So not only am I available to help with career/interpersonal issues but I am now focusing on helping you feel just as successful in your personal life as you do at work.
If this sounds like you or anybody you know, contact me through my website for more information. I'm here to help at www.larrycappeltherapy.com.