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7 Ways To Make Real Change In The New Year

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7 Ways To Make Real Change In The New Year
Don’t Make New Years Resolutions! There is nothing like failure to discourage you from changing.

Happy New Year! Have you made your New Years Resolutions yet? Most of us at least consider doing so. Here are 7 steps you can take to make real and meaningful change in the new year:

1. Don’t make grandiose New Years resolutions. There is nothing like failure to discourage you and lead you to sabotage your effort to change. Don’t say you are going to loose 10 pounds a month. Don’t say you are going to go to the gym 7 days a week if you know you have a very busy life and that’s not likely to happen.

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2. Instead set realistic attainable goals for yourself. Make sure whatever goal you set is measurable and reasonable. Vague goals guarantee vague results. For example, if you want to loose weight set a reasonable goal, say 4 pounds per month for the next 12 months. Or commit to work out at the gym three times a week. It’s reasonable, attainable and measurable. Once you’ve set that goal tell at least 3 trusted people of your plan. This demonstrates your commitment to your goal and recruits support from those you trust.

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3. Set one goal not several! It seems like weight loss and exersize go together but it may be that there are too many changes to manage all at once. You may need to choose say exersize for the first half of the year and then add diet in the second half of the year. That keeps it measurable and reasonable.

4. If you have a reasonable measurable goal you can then develop genuine confidence that you can keep to it. This type of self-confidence must be specific to the goal. This is important. Be focused! Using the weight loss example, one pound a week is something most of us can do with confidence. It might be wise to create a chart and mark the weight loss only once a month. We all know how our weight can fluctuate from day to day. But at the end of the month if you are four pounds lighter then more power to you! Keep reading.

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