Why all the fuss about gay marriage? Why does the LGBT community want to be included in this right? After all, marriage as an institution hasn't faired so well in the last half of the 20th century. Jonathan Rauch, an openly gay man and author of Gay Marriage: Why It Is Good for Gays, Good for Straights and Good for America, once said to a mostly straight audience during an interview, "You broke it, and you'll have to fix it. We can help, but you have to fix it."
You only have to look at the 33 percent divorce rate in this country to see that marriage is broken in the United States. So why are couples in the gay community fighting so hard for their right to marry? In the United States, the government provides a lot of support for marriage and that support translates into dollars, security and peace of mind. Being married comes with many social, economic and legal benefits.
The repeal of DOMA (Defense of Marriage Act) has huge legal, financial, civil, emotional and health-related consequences for same-sex couples. I suspect most opposite-sex couples don't realize the financial emotional and social value of these benefits. If the Supreme Court throws out DOMA, same-sex couples will have these same rights that opposite-sex couples have always taken for granted. As you read this list ask yourself: "What would my family's life be like if I didn't have these benefits that marriage in America grants to me?"
1. $500,000! NPR just ran this story of a lesbian military family. They remarked on how hard it's been for them to stay a couple and raise their kids without the federal recognition granted to opposite-sex married military couples. The couple estimated that $500,000 was what they spent out of pocket to make up for the lack of support from the military.
3. Nobody will stop me from visiting my husband in a hospital intensive care unit or during restricted visiting hours in other parts of a medical facility.
4. I will be the first point of contact for making medical decisions for my spouse if he becomes incapacitated and can't communicate his own wishes. Keep reading ...
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