Lifetime Television's racy new experiment brings couples closer together ... literally.
Lifetime television had a reality series called Seven Days Of Sex which followed two couples per week as they whad sex for seven days in a row. The cameras followed them each step of the way to see what happened during this mini-experiment. The hope was that each couple would spice up their bedroom life, renew their commitment to one another, and transform their marriage.
The idea of a therapist assigning sex is not a new one. The idea of 30-days-of-sex abounds in books, magazines, and even at church. In fact, a Florida pastor made the national news after asking his married patrons to engage in an experiment of 30 straight days of sex. Pastor Paul Wirth of Relevant Church cited a statistic that 20 million Americans who are married have sex less than 10 times a year.
While Seven Days Of Sex is just a shortened version of the 30-days-of-sex experiment, I was truly impressed with the results.
On the first episode, the cameras followed two couples, each one facing unique troubles. One couple, Lauryn and Brown, had difficulty making quality time for one another with three young children at home and full-time jobs. Anthony and Anna faced financial difficulties and control issues.
Both couples reported that their relationships were very hot and heavy in the beginning stages. They reported that daily stresses and "real life" caught up with them, and now they are having trouble keeping the spark alive in the bedroom. Lauryn reports that she can't remember the last time she had sex with Brown, while Anthony reports that he and Anna are not having sex "often enough."
During the seven-day experiment, both couples go through their ups and downs. There are some amazing days and some really bad days for both couples. Here is a breakdown of what happens on each day:
DAY 1: Lauryn goes out with her friends to ask them for advice about how to spice up her sex life. She ends up going home and trying to incorporate the shower into her relationship with Brown. They report that they have never had sex in the shower. Overall, it is a good night for them.
Meanwhile, Anna and Anthony go out for a nice, sushi dinner. She comes home and tells Anthony, "I think I need a nap before. Just let me lay down for 20 minutes." They end up making it through day one.
DAY 2: Lauryn is very tired and tries to cheat her way out of the experiment. She wants to "pretend" that she and Brown have sex, and then make up for it by having sex twice on day three. But Brown says, "we made a commitment and we stick to it." They have what Lauryn calls "the worst sex ever," but they both end up laughing about it hysterically.
Meanwhile, Anthony wants to add a challenge to the experiment, and tells Anna that he wants to get her to have an orgasm on each of the seven days. Anna replies, "Can't you just play nice and not worry about all these little detail ... just let it happen and don't ask so many questions." It is clear that control is an issue in their relationship.
DAY 3: Lauryn talks about some of her insecurities and explains why she absolutely will not have sex during the daytime or while the lights are on. Lauryn and Brown end up having sex with the light on for the first time, and Lauryn and Brown both report feeling closer to one another.
Meanwhile, Anthony hopes that bringing a change of scenery will spark things up for him and Anna. He takes her to a campsite and sets up a tent and a pathetic campfire. Anna is a little put off by it, so Anthony returns with flowers and takes her to a better sleeping arrangement. Anthony wants to show Anna that no matter what their financial circumstances are, they have to make the best of it if they want to start a family.
DAY 4: Lauryn goes to a sex shop and buys some sexy lingerie and other accessories. She reports that she "learned so much" in an hour. Brown appreciates her effort and says, "she was very comfortable with herself."
Meanwhile, Anna and Anthony continue to struggle and Anna tries to set up some important ground rules. She tells Anthony, "Be sweet to me and don't say anything to piss me off."
DAY 5: Lauryn and Brown continue setting aside time for sex. Lauryn has a revelation and reports that sex is like a great break from life.
Meanwhile, Anthony continues some of his controlling ways. Anna complains, "There's nothing I can do right. Once he's nasty to me, I'm outta here."
DAY 6: Lauryn and Brown get into an argument when she doesn't feel that Brown is pulling his weight in regards to taking care of their children. She reports, "I'm feeling a little stepped on." Brown makes it up to her by sending balloons to her workplace and then taking her out for a nice date night. They make up with one another and have an amazing evening. She comes home to find that he has set up a nice surprise for her: wine, chocolates, and the Cosmo Kama Sutra book that she wanted. Lauryn states, "I'm going to straddle his saddle tonight!"
Meanwhile, Anna takes charge of day six by renting a Porsche and picking Anthony up in it. He’s totally shocked to find her in a Porsche, and they have a great time together as Anna takes control in the bedroom later on. Anthony reports, "I’ve lost sight of the fact that Anna can be very confident. I felt that I had to swoop in and control the situations where she would have been perfectly able of handling things." They end up having a great night.
Day 7: Lauryn and Brown sit down and have an emotional talk in which they make promises to one another. They both promise to make one another bigger priorities in their lives and to not neglect one another. They are both ecstatic with the changes that seven days of sex brought to their relationship.
Meanwhile, Anna reports, "I was excited to see the Anthony that I know and love." Anthony recognizes, "In order to make a family work, we need to be on board as a team, and I'm going to start being a team member from this day forward." Both also discuss the idea of having a seven-days-of-sex anniversary each year in which they recreate the experiment.
The Seven Days Of Sex experiment ended up being a huge success for both couples as they learned how to communicate better, and to recognize the needs of their partners.