“What You Don't Feel CAN Hurt You"
by Lane L. Cobb, CPCC, LMT—Holistic Life Coach and Intuitive Bodyworker
"When something within us is disowned, that which is disowned wreaks havoc."
-Ralph H Blum & Susan Coughan
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"What's eating you?" is a question we may ask someone who appears to be suffering. In fact, it's a question we should be asking
ourselves, because although we don't know it, we are quite literally being eaten from the inside out when we don't allow ourselves to fully
experience our emotions. In metaphysical terms, fear, anger, guilt and resentment are the key causes of both physical and emotional illness. Keeping feelings built up can eventually lead to being emotionally unavailable all together.
It's simple, really. Emotions are simply a form of energy that, if left unacknowledged or unexpressed, become stuck in the body and wreak havoc on our immune system, causing conditions such depression, chronic pain, or even cancer. In short, the brain may forget the traumas, grief and disappointments of our lives, but the body always remembers. Yes, it takes courage to go within—to bypass the logic of the head, and tap into the wisdom of the heart. But it takes a lot more energy to store pain than it does to confront it. When we do, we are able to access our innate ability to heal ourselves, and in the process, open the door to joy, freedom, self-expression, purpose, peace of mind and a zest for life you may have forgotten even existed. So what's the answer? Any of these practices can help you on your way to spontaneous healing, living an authentic and
fulfilling life! Remember, the body always knows!
1. Allow yourself to fully experience your feelings. Don't be afraid of hurting someone else. Unless you purposefully try to hurt someone, saying how you feel can actually improve your relationships.
2. Ask your body what it needs. The technological world we live in promotes living "from the neck up". When you are tired, testy or feeling blue, get out of your head and into your body. That's where the wisdom is!
3. Love and accept yourself exactly as you are and exactly as you aren’t. There is nothing about you that needs "fixing." Trying to fix yourself is a losing proposition and creates negative energy.
4. Forgive yourself! Holding onto guilt will keep you stuck in a cycle of self-abuse and general dissatisfaction. Most of the things that happen to us aren't our fault anyway, so just let go!
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We all know the adage "love heals all wounds," we just don't usually think of self-love as a tool for healing and/or illness prevention. This is both the challenge and the benefit. When you allow yourself to feel what you are feeling without judgment or guilt, you not only heal the wounds of the past, but create a healthy and loving environment in your present that extends far into your future.
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