Happy wife, happy life, right? Well, it's time to start making yourself happy by following your dreams! Read on to see if you are blocking your inner-leader from succeeding and how you can find the confidence to be all that you can be.
No matter how old you are or what you do for a living, if you are a woman, I can guarantee that you have a vision of what you want your life to be like, whether it's something you want to accomplish or a difference you want to make in the world. We all have a dream inside of us, and no matter how much of life we experience, there always seems to be another little something we consider to be important enough to dream about. This doesn’t mean we are unhappy, it just means we are women, and women always want to make a difference.
I saw this phenomenon last October when I had the pleasure of presenting one of my signature workshops "Love Yourself and Get on With It!" at the On Purpose Networking Annual Conference for Women. In the workshop, woman after woman shared how they were allowing their limiting beliefs and negative self-talk to hold them back from pursuing their dreams and being the leaders they knew themselves to be. From personal experience, I can say that this is not unusual. In my many years as an entrepreneur, I have struggled with this as well. What I have found is that if we can identify those limiting beliefs, embrace the leader within us, and love her with all of her imperfections, we can discover gifts, talents, and passions we didn’t know existed, and we can allow our truest and most authentic voice to emerge. But far too often, that voice begins to waiver as self-doubt creeps back in, and we retreat back into the darkness and put our visions on hold.
I speak from experience. I know what it is like to have a dream, to know yourself as a leader, yet stop just short of the goal. Looking back, I see that every time I stopped, there was some part of me that I was resisting — some part of me that I was keeping hidden because I didn’t trust myself not to make a mistake. Instead of letting the voice of my inner leader shine, I was listening to the voices of my past telling me that I shouldn't trust her to take care of my vision. Instead of loving her unconditionally, I kept her in the dark. Relentlessly attached to perfection, I was unwilling to allow myself the same latitude I would give anyone who was building a business from scratch. If you are in business for yourself, and you have ever had the experience of going to a certain point in your business, and then putting yourself back in the box, you know what I am talking about.
If my story resonates with you, I urge you to consider that there may be a leader inside of you that you are not listening to because you are not giving her the unconditional love that she deserves. I invite you to ask yourself what might be possible in your life and your business if you acknowledged her and let her lead the way. Where would you be more authentic in your self-expression? How would your life be different if you allowed your inner-leader to come out of the darkness and take charge of your life? She is there, and she is waiting for you to give her permission to lead you forward and bring your visions into the light. If this resonates with you, I invite you to take this on for a day, a week, a month, or a year, because if you love her (and you will), your inner leader will ensure that your own most authentic voice will light your way to happiness and success.
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