How to Dance with Your Heart?

How to Dance with Your Heart?

How to Dance with Your Heart?

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Dancing through life: from attracting the right partner to having a joyful experience that lasts.
Dancing through life: from attracting the right partner to having a joyful experience that lasts.

Our body/mind/spirit system is a key instrument of measurement that helps us evaluate all the data we collect. Unfortunately, we often feel overwhelmed by the amount of intense mental and painful emotional information that we receive. In an attempt to reduce this overwhelm, we make a subconscious decision to partially withdraw from receiving all that information. Such inner decision made in a state of defeat, becomes part of our defense mechanism that helps us survive the intensity of our life by avoiding intense situations or over-reacting and throwing a temper tantrum.

Our body/mind/spirit system is a key instrument of measurement that helps us evaluate all the data we collect. Unfortunately, we often feel overwhelmed by the amount of intense mental and painful emotional information that we receive. In an attempt to reduce this overwhelm, we make a subconscious decision to partially withdraw from receiving all that information. Such inner decision made in a state of defeat, becomes part of our defense mechanism that helps us survive the intensity of our life by avoiding intense situations or over-reacting and throwing a temper tantrum.

If your life is full of frustration, disappointment, blame, guilt, isolation, struggle, anger, and even outrage while you are trying to find your self-worth in the eyes and opinions of others, you may be stuck in the net of false values and not-self concepts. This feeling produces fear of “non-survival”. When you clearly know that you need to disengage from the project or a person, but you are postponing this action, your mind is giving you thousands of reason why you should not trust your guts. When we resist our authentic knowing, we also become the worst critics of ourselves, calling ourselves crazy, dumb and stupid while trying to suppress our own clarity and truth.

When we do not allow ourselves to be authentic, we start judging ourselves or someone who we perceive an obstacle to our natural being. There is an important distinction between judging something that looks like a reactive response and noticing it in a neutral way. Judging usually comes with an emotional attachment, a charge. Charge is the energy that has been stored by your body as a warning signal. It is there to keep you from getting into something you perceived as a “negative” experience in the past. We are actually trying to push something that reminds us about challenging issues in the present or past situations. The act of judgment often substitutes the action required to change unwanted situation or behavior. It is like judging a part of yourself, that you do not like, instead of doing something to transform it.

It is extremely valuable to catch yourself as you begin judging. Notice it, acknowledge that it is just a habit and switch your attention to something useful. As you begin noticing when you use this habit, the judgment becomes less effective in its function and finally dissipates. The judgment is taking your attention from positive changes and focuses you on what is not working. When the judgment is gone, you can put your energy into forming a new habit instead of investing in a fight with your inner Judge, loosing your attention in the constant battle against yourself.

Are you choosing where and how you are or are you being “pulled” into events, relationshops and decisions? If you act out of need or lack, you will eventually accumulate tension that will wear you down. Notice what are you hungry for or what part of your body feels worse when you are not acting on your truth can help you identify where the “frozen” memories, pains and other charges of the past are stored in your body.

Are you looking for attention, love, admiration, feeling loved, wanting to be heard and appreciated?

Are you craving loyalty, support, perfection?

Looking into “missing” feelings and cravings for “more of… “ can help you be more conscious about choices you make in your relationships. Notice how things, events, people around affect you. If what you see and feel happening is not what you want to be part of, you do not have to feel guilty about it. It is totally Ok to not be attracted to some events, relationships, or experiences. It is up to you to make a decision and not become engaged with something that does not feel right to you. You always have a choice.

In my perception, life is a mysterious dance of Souls that come together to experience, to grow, to be. I love dancing and I see dance patterns in everything: from choosing the place to dance, to attracting the right partner, to having a joyful experience with it. In conclusion, I would like to share a few of my dance rules with you.

Timing is everything. You cannot co-create the dance when you are off beat or dancing a sequence that your partner is not aware of.

It is your dance. Acknowledge your nature, your gifts, and your ability to enjoy the dance of life as it comes to you. If you are not ready, do not let anyone lead you into something you are not equipped to handle yet.

Dance is an inner process, not an outer performance. Dance to experience the inner joy and do not invest your energy into impressing others.

Competition is a different activity. It takes a lot of work to compete. Dancing is not about competition. There are always better dancers on the floor as well as people that are learning from watching you dance. Let your heart dance and your legs follow.

Ambiance is important. Allow the music of life to move you forward. Dance in places that feel good, and leave an environment where you feel out of place.

 I invode you to apply these rules to your dance of life and allow love, joy and the beat within to move you around your dancing floor. Life is too short to dance with someone you do not trully love. Find the music of your heart and listen to the songs of others. Dating is all about finding a partner to dance with. Marriage is about making the dance matter in your life.

I am passionate about empowering women to find yourself and then find a relationship they desire. Email me at Lana@energy4action.com or all me at 847 414 3730 for your FREE CONSULTATION. It will help you step out of the vicious circle of living NOT-SELF life and start financing relationships that are important to YOU.

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