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The Alchemy Of Pleasure


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How to transform the pain and suffering into happiness and delight

How to transform the pain and suffering into happiness and delight

Just recently I’ve conducted a workshop during which we have been exploring aspects of personal alchemy. We’ve experimented with ways to transform the lead within our life into the gold of loving relationships, connection to our inherent nature and expansion of consciousness. Today I would like to share my findings about the mystery of personal Alchemy and how to apply your innate abilities to transform the energy of struggle and frustration into the energy of pleasure and intimate relating in your life.

Just recently I’ve conducted a workshop during which we have been exploring aspects of personal alchemy. We’ve experimented with ways to transform the lead within our life into the gold of loving relationships, connection to our inherent nature and expansion of consciousness. Today I would like to share my findings about the mystery of personal Alchemy and how to apply your innate abilities to transform the energy of struggle and frustration into the energy of pleasure and intimate relating in your life.

Even though it sounds very mystical, we all are true alchemists whether we consciously know about it or not. Alchemy is a process by which we transform one form of energy into another, one possibility into the next. Oneness, workshop, moving through the day, taking care of yourself or your family members, having a relationship… All these tasks require a high level of alchemical mastery. Without consciously thinking about your alchemical qualities you are constantly transforming one possibility into another.

Just remember:

How many times you transformed a conflict into a peaceful resolution?

How many times you uplifted someone from being in despair into the state of hope?

How many times you transmuted suffering by shifting your relationship onto neutrality or pleasure?

Often my clients say that they experience non-appreciation, non-recognition, and dishonoring of their spirit by others. Let’s be honest with ourselves and acknowledge that there is something that makes you feel the worst. Let’s explore how you can become effective and masterful in the areas that still create disharmony in your life.

Do you experience any luck of appreciation in your life and within your relationships?

Are you appreciating, recognizing, and honoring your spirit?

Are you modeling this appreciation to others?

How many times has your conversation with family members end up with accusations and criticism instead of appreciation, recognition, and honoring? If you live with someone who is not worth your appreciation, recognition, and honoring, you may want to ask yourself: why am I still together with this person?

Sometimes we just forget how to share our appreciation, recognition, and honoring with each other. If you are missing such soul connection, I recommend you to have an appreciation talk using simple ideas below:

1. Create a list of qualities that you appreciate in yourself. Read it out loud and with passion to yourself. Sense how each quality feels in your body and notice how your spirit is smiling within.

2. Ask your spouse, partner/child to create a list of qualities they appreciate in themselves. Ask them to create as big of a list as they can.

3. After a good meal (not instead or before it!) have a conversation about your mutual qualities. Simply ask your partner to listen to you sharing what you appreciate in yourself. Ask him or her to simply listen without commenting on it as it will allow them to get to know you from a new perspective. Notice how you feel during and after this conversation.

4. Do the same for your partner (even if it is your child). Notice how their face changes as they share their view of themselves. See their Presence coming alive in front of your eyes.

If you feel you’d rather talk to someone more neutral then your spouse, ask a friend to share your mutual appreciation. Even though this seems to be a simple exercise, having this conversation will create a profound awareness in how you feel about yourself and each other. You will experience an amazing feeling of being seen by yourself and people you are close with. This validation will create an energetic wave within your personal Universe affecting every relationship you create.

The Law of Attraction acts through you all the time. You are an attraction point for every experience, every relationship in your life. From the Soul perspective, you are never wrong in your decisions or actions. Every event or relation you are experiencing fits perfectly within your personal Earth Drama script. The more frustrating and painful your relationships are, the more awake and sensitive you become. This helps you recognize when and why your Spirit is gone and raises your awareness about how to make your Spirit dwell in your body. You begin noticing when you feel suffocated and when you feel exhilarated. You start looking for uplifting, loving, supporting experiences and you start asking soul level questions:

What am I about?

Where is my place in the human evolution?

What can I do to help higher consciousness descend fully into my physical form?

There are 6 major patterns of suffering that are present, at least to some extent, in every relationship:

1. Repression
2. Denial
3. Shame
4. Rejection
5. Guilt
6. Separation

These archetypal behaviors create lower vibrational states of fear, anger, resentment and suffering that are based on dishonoring your feelings and suppressing your truth in order to be loved. When we repress our feelings, deny our needs, or become ashamed of ourselves (and people that we love), we lose part of our spirit in a process. When we reject someone, feel guilty of something, experience ourselves as separate/abandoned, we enter (and often get stuck) in emotional states that are way below our natural enthusiasm and interest in life. This creates energetic stagnation of unsatisfied desires and patterns of mental, emotional, and physical suffering.

Do you want to transform the pain of the unconscious nightmare into the pleasure of the fully awakened consciousness?

Awakening begins with answering your own healing questions:

How can I stop repressing my heart feelings?

What would make me trust that my Soul

This article was originally published at . Reprinted with permission from the author.

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