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Do This And You Will Relish The Holidays Without A Man

You’re single and you feel utterly and miserably alone during the holidays without a man.

Know your worth and you will enjoy your own company.

It's the holidays. The sight of happy couples shopping and dining out together annoy you. Christmas music depresses you. Holiday gatherings intensify your aloneness. Cold weather isolates you. Cocktails cause you to pine for your ex-boyfriend-husband who maltreated you. 

You need friends, happy hour and parties to fill your holiday void because you don’t know how to be alone and enjoy your own company.

Girlfriend, you need to learn to love yourself and your life!

Here are 10 activities that will enrich your life:

  1. Count your blessings. Dwelling on what you DON’T have creates discontent, resentment and unhappiness. Consider those who are less fortunate than you. You have health, family and friends, a roof over your head, clean water to drink and tasty food to eat. We take the simple things in life for granted. Be grateful and give to those who are less fortunate.
     
  2. Take the focus off yourself. Share your time at a nursing home, reading to an elderly grandmother who can no longer see her Bible or chatting with the patients who are alone during the holidays. Bake cookies for your firemen, policemen, our soldiers and rescue responders. Volunteer to serve dinner at the Salvation Army or walk dogs at the animal rescue center. Provide a coat and shoes for a child in need … better yet, sponsor a child for an entire year.
     
  3. Pamper yourself. Get a manicure and pedicure; you know you feel better when you shave off the rough calluses on your heels and trim and polish your toes. Get a makeover at the cosmetic counter and treat yourself to a nice pair of designer shoes (you know you deserve it).
     
  4. Rearrange your furniture. Moving your furniture around, painting an old end table and adding a live potted plant and a new toss pillow will inject new energy into your everyday existence.
     
  5. Be a good friend. Invite your friends to a holiday luncheon. Surprise them with a small gift or pick up a friend’s tab. Ask questions about their holidays and listen more than you talk. If you want to feel truly connected to people—learn to be a good listener.
     
  6. Invite your friends over for a potluck dinner. Some of your single friends may also suffer from the holiday blues. Bringing your friends together for food and fellowship will give you warm, fuzzy feelings.
     
  7. Go out of town to visit a friend. Travel removes you from your day-to-day routine and helps put your life into perspective. Reconnecting with a long-distance friend reminds you that you’re not alone in life.
     
  8. Start a new hobby. Enroll for lessons for something you always wanted to do: take up horseback riding, tennis, golf, painting or cooking. Trying new things takes you out of your comfort zone, increases your awareness and stimulates your personal power.
     
  9. Do something creative. Painting, writing and journaling, antiquing old furniture, photography, gardening, cooking and baking and other creative hobbies relieves stress, improves your mental state and fosters personal satisfaction.
     
  10. Mail “real” greeting cards. Emails and texting are gosh-awful impersonal. Send your family and friends “real” greeting cards thorough out the year for Christmas, birthdays, illnesses and other important days. They will appreciate your thoughtfulness and you’ll feel good about yourself.

Or, you can stay at home alone and make yourself miserable by listening to sappy Christmas tunes, bawling while watching It’s A Wonderful Life and gorging on Death by Chocolate ice cream. 

This article was originally published at www.knowitallnancy.com. Reprinted with permission from the author.

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