We need to become comfortable with the idea that we’re never going to be done. There is never going to be a point where we feel that we’ve checked off all of our boxes, or spent all of the time that we want to with our kids
We’re never going to feel completely satisfied with our accomplishments – at least not for longer than a day or two.
As we climb the ladder of our own needs it’s important that we can let go of the effort of the lower needs. This is how we can do more with less, and create more quality time in our lives.
Let’s use water as an example.
If you are a woman in rural Africa, in a village that doesn’t have a well, then you might have to walk three miles each way to a river each day to get water.
After carrying the water back to your village the water needs to be boiled, treated and stored for consumption.
Each and every day.
Now your village has the resources to build a well. The walk to the river is no longer necessary – but the water must still be boiled, treated and stored.
Does the woman still need to walk to the well? What does she do with this gift of time? Does she spend time worrying about whether the well will run dry?
This is how many of us our spending our lives. We continue to do what we’ve always done, even though we don’t need to anymore.
And even if we’re not “doing” what needs to be done to “get” something that we already have – we spent mounds of emotional energy worrying about what will happen if we lose it.
It’s like we are walking back and forth to the river even though there is a well, and while the well is working beautifully, we sit and watch it, worrying about when it won’t flow.
This is not to say that you may not experience loss in your life. Marriages end, finances shift, wells run dry. But until these things actually occur, the time we spend worrying about them in our heads could be so much better spent achieving our dreams, laughing with our children or taking a bubble bath.
“Worry is a prayer for what you don’t want.”
Being clear about the needs that you are currently meeting in your life, expressing gratitude for them and keeping focused on your next “more” will allow you the space to create your everything.
This is the crux of a quality life.