Dating After Divorce? 3 Pitfalls To Avoid

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Dating After Divorce? 3 Pitfalls To Avoid [EXPERT]
Are you newly single? Learn to side-step these 3 dating blunders!

Another question to ask: Am I happy alone even without a man in my life? If the answer is yes, then you're ready to get involved in a new relationship. But if the only reason you're getting involved in a new relationship is because you can't stand to be alone, then your new relationship may indeed be a rebound relationship. As you heal from your divorce and think about the lessons you learned from it, your new relationship can be transformed from a rebound relationship to a real relationship, as long as it's based on more than just physical attraction. Single & Ready To Mingle? 5 Places To Meet Local Men

3. Unintentionally holding onto baggage. None of us are blank sheets of paper. We have all been hurt in the past. The key is to find ways to release the baggage so it doesn't get stuck inside of you. In fact, much of the time, you're probably not even aware of your baggage.

 

It's time to start having an internal dialogue with yourself. Did you spend enough time alone after your divorce to really think about what caused the collapse of your marriage? While your ex-husband likely played a part, did you have any destructive habits? Blame is one of the most common destructive habits I've seen in couples. Divorced & Dating? Why You Haven't Met Mr. Right

We want to blame our significant others for the way we feel. But our emotions have our nametags on them. We own them. Rather than telling our partners "You're making me angry," it's much better to say, "When you did X, Y, or Z, I didn't feel so good. I felt really uncomfortable."

Whether it's avoiding blame or any other relationship-sabotaging factors, is there anything you could do differently in a new relationship to stop it from going the way of your marriage? It's only when you answer this question that you can say goodbye to your baggage and hello to a wonderful new relationship.

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Kimberly Pryor Wilkes

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Kimberly Pryor

Host of The Rebuilding Your Life After Divorce Mountain Retreat

Author of The Indestructible Relationship

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