It’s never a good idea for a man to take his attention off of a woman. It’s too risky because we require so much of it. You can sense when a man’s attention is directed somewhere else – potentially kicking up a host of insecurities for you. Who is he texting/ talking to? Is he a player?
So how can you get his attention OFF his cell phone and back on YOU?
Every man – including awesome, aware men – can unintentionally offend us through words or actions. Men need to know when their doing something that makes you unhappy. They can’t read your mind – and often – can only slightly see by your face you’re not pleased about something.
And, it’s awkward trying to figure out how to graciously let a man know his tech habits bother you, yes?
So, the best course of action is to be straight, clear and overt by sharing how it feels when he does this. Read below for a great way to get the conversation started and steer his attention away from his phone – and back on YOU.
Guy: “Hey, is everything all right?”
You: “Well, everything has been great so far tonight and I really appreciate you making such a wonderful choice with the restaurant. The only thing is, every time you go to the washroom, you seem to be taking a long time and I get the sense you’re on your phone either checking messages or talking to someone else. I just want you to know If we’re going to continue on to a second date – it’s not cool with me you do that.
Guy: “Ummm, ok.”
You: “I know my sharing this is creating a bit of awkwardness. But, I’m sure you would prefer I tell my truth, rather then not saying anything, right?”
You: “Awesome. Your not a wrong guy that you do that, it’s just I’m the kind of woman who appreciates a man who knows how to keep his attention on me. You’ve already demonstrated you do that really well in every way tonight. Even though your not on the phone in front of me, I can feel your attention elsewhere. Thanks for hearing me out and giving me the space to be honest – I appreciate you for doing that.”
Guy: “Ok, thanks for being honest. Wanna go dancing?!”
You can see you’re not making him wrong or coming from a place of anger. In fact, you’ll notice how to always start with giving him some form of appreciation. This way, he energetically stays open – making it easier to hear what your truth is.
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