With tax time just around the corner, I know that money is on the minds of many right now.
With tax time just around the corner, I know that money is on the minds of many right now. And, there’s most likely a host of limiting beliefs and patterns about your Money Story that might be kicking up for you right now.
If you’ve been listening to my recent tele-classes lately, I’m continually sharing how limiting beliefs about money are actually not about the money at all – in fact it’s never about the money, it’s more about what money represents – the power we give it and fears it can bring up.
One of the major fears that block the flow of what we want (money, a soulmate etc…) is a fear of being in our personal power.
Many people hold an unhealthy and false illusion about what personal power is. For example, if you define power as:
“I might hurt people with this”
“I don’t want to stand out”
“Others will be jealous of me”
If this is what you’re telling yourself about what having personal power is, then your going to run from it as fast as you can, right?
One of the ways we avoid being in our power is by living outside of our body. We don’t know how to manage our energy and don’t realize when you’re giving your power away, exerting too much power or when to call more power in when you need it.
One of the first things I do when I’m starting a session with clients who have a lot of issues kicking up is have them stop, breathe and bring their focus and attention to our session –I already know and can feel their out of their body.
Your personal power is really about embracing your light – your creative, lovely, feminine, life force energy that wants to come through. But, if you’ve made up a false story about what power means, you end up continually downplaying your greatness or suppressing it.
Marianne Williamson expressed this well in her (now famous) quote:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.”
We’re so afraid of standing out, you end up bringing yourself down to everyone else’s level. I call it dimming your light. When I’m coaching clients, the whole focus is about turning their “light switch” back on so they shine like a bright beacon for men and all the world to see.
Your light is your vital Feminine LIFE FORCE – and it’s huge! It takes a tremendous amount of energy to suppress this powerful Life Force that’s so much bigger then you. Talk about exhausting.
I coach many women who are burnt out in their life. They’ve spent a lifetime giving their power away to men and living every day dimming their light, suppressing their beautiful Life Force – this thing they’re afraid of, don’t know how to embrace or even understand.
When you have a fear of your personal power, it blocks your ability to attract money and a man. Why? You can only let in the amount of money and love your willing to utilize to express more of your power.
The more love and money you have, the more inner and outer power you have.The more of both you have, the more influence you have and ability to live the way you want.
If you’re afraid your power will hurt people, make others jealous or make you stand out too much, you’ll unconsciously act out behaviours and make decisions about your life that will keep your power suppressed.
So, the more you suppress your power, the less money and love can come in because the Universe will only supply you with what you demonstrate you need and intend to use up.
One way you may be “acting out” is keeping strong beliefs activated that there is a scarcity of men or a scarcity of money – all your focus is there – and what you focus on expands.
Simply shifting your focus to an abundant mindset and envisioning an infinite supply of whatever your heart desires, and then taking action will accelerate it coming toward you.
I make it a regular practice to set BIG goals, envision things beyond my wildest imagination – my bank account or what’s happening in my current life situation is never a part of the equation. If I did, nothing would ever get off the ground and it would be challenging to move forward.
So when you learn how to celebrate your greatness and truly own it, your love life becomes a joy vs. a pain and money becomes a friend rather then a fear or responsibility.
Below is a great exercise to help you begin the process of shifting through getting your power back in all the areas of your life you need to:
1) Where ARE you comfortable with your power?
Think of a time or all the places you already feel powerful and write them down. It could be your job, a presentation you did, a friendship – whatever it is for you.
2) Where are you NOT in your power?
This could also be in a relationship or your job/ business/ pets/children/ money/ yourself – write it down.
3) Then, ask yourself “What would a strong, attractive, brilliant woman do in this situation?”
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