You're Unhappy But Your Partner Is Fine—What Can You Do?

By Kim Olver. Posted on Jan 20th 2012.

Are you tired of talking to your partner about your relationship when he doesn't see the problem?

When you choose acceptance, you have to give up any anger, pain and resentment around the issue. You genuinely decide this is an issue that is no longer going to bother you. You may even look at it as your partner giving you an opportunity to practice patience, forgiveness, or unconditional love.

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Your final option is to leave. Sometimes what you realize is you have found a deal breaker. If your partner won’t change and you can’t live with things the way they are, you may want to consider leaving. However, unless you are in physical danger, I usually recommend trying the other options first. Once you make the decision to leave, it’s difficult to rescind that decision.

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But no matter the outcome, you have taken control of you and your own unhappiness instead of insisting your partner must change in order for you to be happy. Do you really want to be at the mercy of another person who doesn’t even recognize the source of your unhappiness as a problem? No, take back your life. Create your own peace and happiness. It’s not outside of you. It’s right within your grasp.

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