How Compatible Are You and Your Partner?
By Kim Olver. Posted on .
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Couples may have conflict in many areas but do you know there is a simple explanation for the conflict? When looking for a life partner, it is a good idea to take a close look at your “Need Strength Profile,” based on my work with InisdeOut Empowerment. This simple assessment will assess where you and your partner are in terms of the five basic needs and help you determine what areas are compatible and what areas should generate discussion and possible compromise and negotiation. Why You Aren't Happily Ever After Anymore [EXPERT]
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The free assessments at InsideOut Empowerment will provide a rudimentary understanding of where you are with regard to the five basic human needs of InsideOut Empowerment—connection, survival, significance, freedom and enjoyment. If you are seeking compatibility in a relationship, you and your partner can both take this assessment and then discuss your results based on the rest of this article.
The first need is called connection. It is the need that determines how much time and intimacy with others you require. Generally speaking, relationships work best when you have equivalent strengths of the connection need. This is the need that will help you determine as a couple how much time you spend together and how much time is needed apart. Loving sex and romance is another aspect of this need, as are extended family and friends.
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The second of the five basic needs is survival. This is so much more than just the need to physically survive, although that is part of it. It is also the psychological need to feel safe and secure. Areas of potential conflict around this need involve the ability to adapt to change, how you spend and save money, preparations one makes for safety, spontaneity, and tolerance for risk. You're Unhappy But You're Partner Is Fine—What Can You Do? [EXPERT]
The third of the human needs is significance. People with a high need for significance want to make an impact, be heard and gain respect. It’s important to leave a legacy and to gain recognition for their accomplishments.
