How To Be Happy: It's An InsideOut Job

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How To Be Happy: It's An InsideOut Job
This article summarizes 7 steps to happiness, all within a person's control.

The reason most people feel unhappy is that they are in search of this illusive happiness that is somehow found outside of them in things they acquire, people they want and experiences they have. While these things can bring temporary pleasure, if you are seeking true happiness, it’s an InsideOut job.


See the seven steps on how to be happy and you’ll notice they are all things you can do without going in search of anything outside of yourself. For more details, go to http://www.mentalhealthandhappiness.com.

 


1. Focus on the Things over which You have Control


So much of our unhappiness is self-created as we spend time and energy on those things we can’t control. Do you wish the weather would change? Do you want your partner to be more attentive? Do you want your children to be more responsible? Do you want your boss to show her appreciation? What do all of these things have in common? You have no control over any of it. The only thing you can control is yourself so in order to be happy instead of looking at what everyone needs to do to change, start looking in the mirror at what you can do to better appreciate or change the circumstances of your life. (Click here to get your free Tip Sheet on InsideOut Thinking.)


2. Living Now


If is a rare person indeed who can stay completely focused on the here and now but doing so more often is a key in how to be happy. When we let our mind drifts to past regrets or upcoming anxieties, it can rob us of our happiness in the moment. How do you do this? When you find yourself occupied with regrets from the past or worry about the future, gently remind yourself to totally focus on whatever you are doing in that moment. Immersing yourself in the present can bring you a sense of peace and great happiness.


3. Discover and Live Your Purpose

We were all born into this world with unique talents, skills and abilities that make us uniquely able to contribute to the good of humanity. If you haven’t yet discovered your purpose, doing so will provide a path of how to be happy. When you realize what you have to offer others and you do that on a consistent basis, you are operating in your job and bliss. You can’t help but be happy. So, why are you here? What do you bring to the universe? If you don’t know, it’s OK. While you are figuring it out, make sure the things you do are in service to others. Nothing teaches how to be happy better than helping others.

4. Perceive the Positive

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Kim Olver

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Kim Olver, LCPC, has been featured in Whole Living, Women's World, Fitness Magazine and Counseling Today and is the best-selling, award winning author of Secrets of Happy Couples: Loving Yourself, Your Partner, and Your Life.

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