5 Moves Men Can Learn From Christian Grey


5 Moves Men Can Learn From Christian Grey [EXPERT]
'50 Shades of Grey' isn't only for the ladies after all.

4. Possession. Despite bra burning and the womens equality movement, most women still want to be possessed and protected by a strong man. It is a feral instinct. But there is a fine line between possession for a woman's safety and possession for control. No woman wants to be controlled by a man, but we will welcome his possession on two conditions.

The first condition is that he is possessing her because the thought of losing her is unbearable. He needs to keep a woman safe and protect her. The second condition is that the ownership goes both ways. This is no time for double standards. If a man is going to possess a woman, he must also concede that she possesses him as well. Is Jealousy Destroying Your Relationship?

5. The fine art of negotiation. Anastasia is often very frustrating to Christian, as he is to her. They are able to express this frustration, give their underlying reasons for it and then create a solution that works for both. Occasionally, it means one admits they are wrong and makes an adjustment to their behavior. But, this often means really getting to the core of what the problem is, identifying what each person really wants, and reaching an agreement that works for both parties.

This is something every woman wants. When you are frustrated with something she does, do not just get mad. Explain why you are upset and what the underlying fear is. Talk it out. Be open to hearing why it is important to her. Then, taking both of your desires into account, work to create a solution that satisfies you both.

Men, get busy and happy reading!

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