11. When you partner says, “You always do that” or “You never do thus and so,” especially when she is in an emotional mood, needs to be translated to “You do that sometimes or a lot” and “You don’t do that as often as I’d like or as often as you used to.” Try not to get stuck on the absolutes. That’s not literally what she means. It’s just how she is expressing the seriousness of her emotions.
12. Remember why you love this person. Shift your focus from the one or two things that bother you about your partner and instead, focus on all the things you appreciate.
These are a dozen things you can do together to strengthen your relationship. You must ask yourself how important it is that you be “right.” Being right means you have to make the other person wrong. Is that really what you want to do with the person you are intimately involved with?
With Valentine’s Day being Tuesday, is there one of these behaviors you can choose as a gift to your partner? Do it for the day, the week or even better, the whole year. Let me know what happens.