8. I have the right, and the responsibility, to ask for what I want. I used to want things from the important people in my life and expected they would just magically know what I wanted and give it to me. I was disappointed a lot since I don't have many mindreaders in my life. Now I know if I really want something, I need to ask for it.
9. If I don't get what I want, then it's my responsibility to figure out how to get it without blaming or criticizing the person who didn't give it to me. Just because someone cares for you doesn't mean they can or will indulge your every whim. People generally engage in behavior that works for them. If you are asking them to change, they may not want to because it means they will get less of what they want. Accept that and move on to a different solution.
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10. The most important relationship is the one I have with myself. Just because I am focused on positive relationships doesn't mean I will sacrifice me to stay on good terms with you. There are ways to create win/win/win solutions and I'm all in—you win, I win and our relationship grows stronger. But if I have to lose so you can win, then my relationship with myself is weakened and I'm not willing to do that. People come and go in my life, but I am the constant variable.
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These lessons have been extremely helpful to me and I hope they will also be for you. If you'd like to learn more, go to William Glasser Institute—US. When you apply these lessons in your life, magic can happen.