8. Hopeful—As you build up your determination and begin researching your options, you realize there is hope. Others have recovered from divorce and so will you. You begin to see the light at the end of your long, dark tunnel. The No Drama Break Up EXPERT
9. Happiness—Happiness comes when you can recognize there are some positive things about this divorce. There was likely a lesson or gift in the process. Was it good you found out now, instead of later? Are there opportunities you can now take advantage of you wouldn't have done while married? Do you know who your true friends are? Have you met wonderful people as the result of being single? Did you learn something very important about yourself? Do you know how you want to be in your next relationship as a result of this divorce? Happiness comes when you can see the positive side of this experience. Is It Time To Spring Clean Your Life? EXPERT
10. Balanced—This is the stage I'd love to see everyone get to, but sadly not everyone does. It is a similar place to Maslow's self-actualization. In the balanced stage you come to understand and accept all that life offers. You realize nothing is either "good" or "bad." Everything has an equal balance of positivity and negativity. How you experience things simply depends upon where you place your focus. In the balanced stage you fear nothing. You know you can triumph in any situation. You accept all life has to offer as being exactly as it is meant to be. You are truly able to accept and embrace life and people exactly as they are.