to the YourTango newsletter!

Continue to Site »»

ProConnect

Top 5 Side-Effects Of Self Love

By . Posted on .

Top 5 Side-Effects Of Self Love
Will loving yourself more bring you more pleasure than you can handle?

I’m often speaking, writing, teaching and practicing all things “self-love,” including ways to do it and what happens if and when we don’t. However, it recently occurred to me that I have never talked about the side effects of embarking on the self-loving journey. Before making a potentially life-altering decision, it’s always responsible to consider the possible impacts such a choice can have on our lives.  If you are ready to make an informed decision about filling your self-love prescription then read on…

Warning:  Always consult your inner wisdom before choosing to engage in self-loving behavior.  Some side effects of extreme self-love may not be reported, but most commonly people under the influence of self-love have reported the following…

More from YourTango: 3 Lessons To Learn From Lance Armstrong's Confession

5.  Increased feelings of Joy. How can we not be joyous when we’re loving ourselves!? If feeling joyful becomes overwhelming, consult your inner self-soothing department and take a deep breath, reminding yourself that you are worthy of infinite joy!

4.  Decreased experience of chaos and conflict in personal and professional relationships. We’re often so accustomed to chaos and conflict that when it goes away, we can freak out a bit and even begin to recreate it. If your self-love prescription leaves you waiting for the drama, pause, breathe, and know this too shall pass as you spend some time in your “new chaos-free normal.”

3.  Increased experience of peace, calm and relief. Watch out, folks … this side effect can really throw us for a loop! Do we even know what to do with ourselves when we are peaceful, calm and relieved? The good news is, you can get used to it, if you’re willing to let yourself. When you notice this side effect, consider leaning in and allowing peace and calm to fill the nooks and crannies of your experience.

2.  Increased productivity and prosperity.  Yup! You read correctly. Are you willing to give up self-judgment in exchange for increased productivity and prosperity? The truth is, we are all love, so when we align ourselves with that which we are, then we are able to welcome increased abundance as we remember that we deserve every bit of it. Don’t rely on my word though … try it for yourself!

1.  Extreme forgiving and loving others.  As we love ourselves, we realize we are one with others, and it would be incongruent to love and accept ourselves but not others. Beware that those you may have struggled to love and forgive before may soon be receiving your pardon. Choosing to love and forgive doesn’t mean we agree with what has or hasn’t happened, or what we perceive others to have done or not done. It simply means we agree to free ourselves and others from the past so we can be present now.

More from YourTango: 4 Tips For Actualizing New Year's Intentions

**This is not a complete list of side effects and many others may occur. In the event of a self-love overdose, beware of miracles and call on your highest self to celebrate as you express gratitude and appreciation.

Follow author and licensed psychotherapist Keri Nola on Facebook and Twitter for more tips on inspired living and relating.

Article contributed by
Advanced Member

Keri Nola

Author

Keri Nola is a highly regarded Psychotherapist, Coach, and Author of A Year on Your Path to Growth and Founder of Path To Growth, LLC, an integrative healing center based in Central Florida. She combines traditional and holistic techniques to help people access their inner wisdom and create a healthy mind, body, and spirit to live their most inspired lives. Her real life experience paired with her extensive education and work background makes her a compassionate, balanced, and sought-after professional in the areas of personal and spiritual growth and development. For more information, visit www.pathtogrowth.com, join Keri on Facebook  and follow her on Twitter.

Location: Winter Springs, FL
Credentials: LMHC, MA
Specialties: Abuse / Survivors of Abuse, Empowering Women, Post Traumatic Stress / Trauma
Other Articles/News by Keri Nola:

3 Lessons To Learn From Lance Armstrong's Confession

By

After years of Lance Armstrong denying the use of performance-enhancing drugs during his cycling career, his recent confession is generating intense reactions from many people. The truth is it's often easy and more comfortable in these situations for people to stand on the outside peering in through a judgmental frame. When someone shows us a glimpse of ... Read more

4 Tips For Actualizing New Year's Intentions

By

Ok, so we’re a few weeks into a new year and if you’re anything like me, now is usually the time when your passion, motivation and excitement about all those “good” intentions, resolutions and plans start to wane. Don’t panic. This is normal, and I’ve got some suggestions on how to meet yourself where you are so you can ... Read more

3 Simple Steps To Embrace Your Inner Critic

By

We all know this voice. It’s the one that shows up when we are being human and it says things like, “You’re so stupid! How could you have said or done that!? What were you thinking!? No one is going to like you if you keep saying/doing that! You screwed everything up!” Before we learn how to be in relationship with this part of us, ... Read more

See More

Recent Expert Posts
relationship advice: trust after infidelity

5 Ways You Can Learn To Trust Again After Infidelity

Before you can trust someone after an affair, you first need to take a look at yourself.

Flirt

Is the Problem Lazybutt Love?

Put your love life on 'autopilot' and eventually, bad weather will send you off course.

Ask The Experts

Have a dating or relationship question?
Visit Ask YourTango and let our experts and community answer.

Resources
How to find the right pro for you
10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

10 Reasons Mental Health Pros Should Join YourTango Experts

YourTango Experts can help your business go from good to great.

10 Steps To Improve Your Coaching Business

Take your coaching business from mediocre to great in no time…

Frequently Asked Questions About YourTango Experts

Thinking of joining? Here's all the facts you need to know to make the most of your membership.

Getting Your Guy To Join You In A Therapy Or Coaching Session

So how can your get your strong, self-reliant, superman to talk to an Expert with you?

Therapist/Counselors: Who We Are & What We Do

What exactly does a therapist/counselor do and can they really help?

See more resources>
HOT STUFF!
FROM OUR PARTNERS