You Can't Argue With You: Making A Commitment To Self-Improve

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Be willing, commit to change and be inspired as you witness how your intention starts to bear fruit.

Wouldn't everyone like a little self-improvement in one or many areas of their lives? We all have some secret wish to get better at something. Sometimes it's not even so secret. The key is to have a commitment and some willingness to make the difference happen. We all heard plenty about willpower from parents, teachers and coaches when we were growing up. Personally, I think willpower is a bunch of baloney. For me it is a cartoonish argument I set up between me and me. Remember the little angel on one shoulder and the little devil on the other? That's my picture of willpower. No matter what happens, when two aspects of me get into an argument, I am going to lose one half of those arguments 100% of the time.

I'm a big fan of willingness. That is deciding on an intention and then, being willing to do whatever it takes to bring that intention into fruition. No argument. No winner or loser. Without the argument I can create a mindset that eliminates the ego constructing a series of "what ifs" to get me off course. I have an intention to which I am committed, and I am willing to make it happen. While we're at it, let's have a look at that commitment piece as well.

Commitment is not that hard. The fact is that we are always committed to something. Most of our actions and everything that we repeatedly do are things that we are committed to. They may not always be beneficial. They might even be self-destructive. Let's take an example we can relate to. Are you one of those people who is always saying, "I would love to get in shape"? I hear that a lot in my business. You may have a vision of a well nourished and toned body, but in truth, what you are really committed to is that very round and lumpy physique that you have spent a great deal of time and eating creating. You need a new commitment.

It is not just about having a vision. There needs to be new activity. What you are committed to out-pictures as your life and how you show up in the world. So, if your life is not reflective of what it is you desire, then you need to be committed to showing up in a different fashion. In our example, you actually need to start eating healthier and adding modest exercise. You must be absolutely committed to the actions and be willing to do them until you demonstrate the results you are seeking.

Being committed to the change you are acting upon tends to build on itself as your intention starts to bear fruit. You begin to have faith in what your willingness can accomplish, which will usually drive you to greater and greater demonstration. You will find in a very short period of time that this approach is far more effective than refereeing a battle between two cartoon characters on your shoulders.


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