What Women And Men Get From Vibrators And Porn

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What Women And Men Get From Vibrators And Porn
These two technologies reveal a critical difference between men and women—which may surprise you!

Let's be honest. A man's machinery isn't all that hard to operate. The vast majority of healthy males have easy access to as much climax as they want. They don't even need a partner. But something is, shall we say, lacking in that experience. In other words, climax, in and of itself, is not the thing that has men come alive.

On the flip side, women generally have easy access to willing partners, if a willing partner were all that was necessary. But again, there can be something profoundly missing in the experience. It's often easier for a woman to produce more sensation in her partner's body than she feels in her own.

 

So for men and women, there are different forms of this quality of unmet hunger. An itch that doesn't get scratched by what's most readily available to them. It's revealing to look at how men and women turn to technology to compensate. Because it's different. 

With women, the technology they're most likely to turn to is a vibrator. For men, the most common technology they turn to is porn. These are both huge industries. Yes, there are a few toys geared toward men, but the majority of money spent goes to vibrators for women. Just as the majority of money for porn comes from men.

So think about that.

There's something vitally important to many women, a missing ingredient, that they're getting from focused genital stimulation. For many men, there's a vitally important missing ingredient that they get from exposure to other human beings in a state of arousal/orgasm.

Before we move on, lets look a little more closely at women and sex.

  • The disparity between men and women reaching climax during sex is well known and even has a name, "the orgasm gap."
  • Women are less likely to moan or make sounds during their own orgasm but more likely to get louder as their partner reaches orgasm. Women use their moans to accelerate their partner's climax, or to boost his self-esteem. 
  • The sex industry is built primarily on female sexual service providers serving male clients. Female prostitutes outnumber males by about five-to-one.

So while men have easy access to direct orgasm, their unmet desire, the thing they deeply crave, we can call empathetic orgasm. Likewise, while women have easy access to empathetic orgasm and often default to that, what their bodies deeply crave is a direct experience of orgasm.

This article was originally published at Ken Blackman's Blog. Reprinted with permission.

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