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My Life as a Phone Sex Operator - Part 10

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My Life as a Phone Sex Operator - Part 10
Pregnancy and Phone Sex

I couldn’t stop thinking about that call where the wife walked in and caught her husband. I guess I’ll never really forget about it since I am writing about it today. Everyone has their own opinion about what is right and what is wrong. I have always taken the stance that phone sex was a good thing. Of course I would, because it’s my business, a way of life for me, and also a way of life for a few hundred others whom I employ.

I have always been curious as to why men call; each has his own personal reason why he does it. I don’t think that it is to “cheat”, necessarily. My caller “Paul”, during his subsequent call, apologized to me, saying that he just felt strange having sex with his very pregnant wife. He felt that maybe the baby, HIS baby, inside of her, would hear and feel the sexual interactions taking place. He made sure to clearly express to me, that he had great feelings for his wife; he just felt strange making love to her because there was another being there.

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I have to honestly say, I don’t blame the man. He wanted a sexual outlet, he was not interested in cheating on his wife, but he wanted sexual relief. Could he have spoken to his wife about all of this, YES. Would she have understood, most likely, YES! Would it have change the fact she had his child growing inside of her? NO.

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As two separate people, a woman and a man, there are different thoughts, different ways, of approaching and handling a situation. For this woman, I am sure she felt all of the difficult rigors of a third term pregnancy, and felt horrible about not being intimate with her husband. But perhaps, she did not want to expose a fetus, her unborn child, to sexual things? No one really knows what is right and wrong. There is no clear way of knowing what a fetus exactly thinks, feels, or is exposed to during sexual intercourse. It is the couple, themselves, that needs to determine their intimacy comfort level.
We are all here to learn and experience life. Paul had several options: 1.) he could have communicated with his wife that he wanted to have sex, but felt uncertain due to her pregnancy, and that he did not want her to feel pressured to have sexual relations while she was physically uncomfortable; 2.) he could have refrained from all sexual activity, including masturbation; 3.) he could have masturbated alone. Paul chose a different and viable option - 4.) he chose to talk to a phone sex operator at http://AdultPhonePal.com, with whom he’d never create a relationship with on any level, and never know personally. It was just a safe and fast fantasy experience, and a way to keep him on his journey to have a nice family.

Ask 100 people, and you will get 100 opinions; but in my opinion, it was ten minutes of sexual freedom for this man. Right, wrong, or indifferent, it was his choice. For those of you that are curious, a few weeks after our telephone connection, Paul and his wife joyfully celebrated the birth of a healthy baby boy, 8 pounds 2 oz. -AND, that was the last I ever heard from him. I say, mission accomplished- another marriage saved, another family happily together.

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