All of these things are the unintended consequences of what seems like a good and fair solution for many families. Divorce is devastating for everyone involved, even when it seems like everyone is handling it well. I would ask parents to be cognizant of that fact. To watch their children for changes that could mean distress. And to help them get through it.
Kelly P. Crossing is a licensed professional counselor in the Dallas/Ft Worth area and founder of Link Learning Center, a premiere provider of continuing education to counselors and therapists—and to individuals, couples, and families.
*Lannie is not her real name, and some details have been changed to protect her anonymity.