Is Your Social Life Hurting Your Love Life?
By Kelly Chicas, Mick Lolekonda, Sherri Nickols. Posted on .
Be curious. This alone can lead to a busier, more fulfilling social life. Asking others about their hobbies shows your interest in their lives. In turn, they may invite you to join them, and may also, eventually, introduce you to their single friends. 6 Secret Places To Meet Men
By starting with your interests, being pro-active in your social life and making yourself available to others, you will increase your chances of meeting people who can enrich your life—including a life partner. It's all about reaping what you sow.
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Know That Playfulness Begets Partnership
Do you spend your free time in ways that deepen your relationship or, if you're single, provide the opportunity to meet new people? Whether you're single or in a committed relationship, if you want a luscious love life, you need to make sure your social life is in sync with the life you want to create.
Be honest. Are you spending your free time holed up in your own home or focused on completing your to-do list? If you are, yet deeply desire a loving relationship, you need to make some serious changes. Engaging in activities that leave you feeling unfulfilled, bored or disconnected will only pull your energy down, making you less attractive to others.
Make a conscious choice to reclaim your playful spirit. Be open, adventurous and daring. When you start having fun, your inner sparkle will shine outward, and your new in-love-with-life attitude will make you irresistible to the opposite sex.
A "fun journal" is a great tool to get you rolling in the right direction. Turn the first page into an index of 20 social situations that would support your relationship goals, and then act on one each week. Write about the outcome.
Here are five fun activities to get your journal started:
1) salsa dancing
2) Meetup.com clubs
3) day trips
4) sporting events
5) a festival or concert
Get your sparkle on and you'll draw in the relationship of your dreams!
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