How Married Women Can Recover Sexual Confidence

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Married women can rediscover their sexual confidence via their bodies and brains.

Men are attracted to a woman who is sexually confident—they're not obsessing about your tummy pooch; they love your breasts no matter what shape they're in; and they barely notice your imperfect skin. Really. But I understand that you can't shrug off years of insecurity just like that, so turn off the lights, light a candle and know that your husband wants to be there with YOU, not the air-brushed model.

Up next: your mind. Women who have families, work and maybe even go to school are simply exhausted at the end of the day. If your idea of a blissful evening is Chinese takeout on paper plates, an hour of TV and bed by 8 pm, you are not alone. But by succumbing to this kind of inertia you're robbing yourself of time you could be spending regaining your sexual confidence. You can either let your mind go on auto-pilot, or you can find a way to rediscover your inner energy and desire. I know it's tough to make time for sexual expression when you have a family, work, school and a million other demands to fulfill, but it's not impossible. Why Your Brain Is The Biggest Sex Organ

Take a look at your schedule. Yes, I know you're busy, but somewhere in that schedule there are 15 or 20 minutes that you can devote to yourself and your husband. Do you both have to take a shower in the morning? What a good bonding opportunity! Perhaps there's time for a lunchtime rendezvous, or a quick evening date (just make sure you get that time in before you run out of gas).

Marriage is hard work, and so is keeping your sexual confidence. Remember to butter that toast in the morning!

To really make this advice work, you need to follow these action steps to complete today's challenge.

Right now, I want you to:

In the next 24 hours, prepare yourself for sexual intimacy. Maybe it's been a while, but shave your legs, buy some sexy underwear (comfortable, but no granny pants!) and use perfume. Wash your hair, take a shower and change the bed sheets. Add some candles and music. Do whatever you need to do to feel sexy. You'll be amazed at how a few simple things will change your outlook on intimacy.

Within 7 days I want you to:

Take a shower with your partner. It can be when you get up in the morning, after work, or late at night before going to bed. Showering together is a quick, easy way to reconnect, relax, and explore your sexual confidence—it gives a lot of bang for your buck.

By the end of the challenge I want you to:

Find a time outside of your normal busy schedule to be sexually intimate. Use your business skills to "think out of the box", and look for opportunities that you have not noticed before. Get up 30 minutes earlier; take an extra-long lunch hour; send the kids out to play or buy them a new video to watch while you and your partner have some adult time; decide to "christen" every room in your house. Do something exciting, and have fun!

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