7. Don't Want Someone Who Doesn't Want You
As much as you want to be with your ex again, if he hasn't come back to you, it means that he doesn't feel the same way about you. Accepting that he doesn't want you and knowing that you deserve to have someone who wants you, and only you, can release you from the desperation you feel for him. Hold your head up high and tell yourself that you don't want someone who has to be with you—you want someone who wants to be with you, yearns to be with you, and will do anything possible to be with you.
8. Write-Off Your Ex
Need to do more than just "wash your ex out of your hair?" A little creative and unedited writing just might be what the Heart Doc ordered. Putting pen to paper and letting it all flow can work wonders for getting in touch with the deepest of your emotions and letting them go. Getting over your ex is always easier said than done and with each love story that ends, you will experience emotions differently and to unique levels and degrees.
Taking time each day to express how you are feeling with regard to your breakup will allow the emotions we normally "stuff" to be released. Two rules to remember—don't hold back, discern, edit, etc. and only read it once before discarding it. I recommend burning the paper to complete the cleansing process. 6 Steps To Get Over Your Ex
9. Tune Out Your Ex
Is your mind working overtime thinking about and rehashing the last few exchanges you had with your ex? Start tuning them out. Put together a playlist on your cell phone of songs that remind you of why it is good to be you and great to be moving on.
My playlist would include "Not Goin' Cry" by Mary J. Blige, "Survivor" by Destiny's Child, "Since U Been Gone" by Kelly Clarkson, "Irreplaceable" by Beyonce, "My Happy Ending" by Avril Lavigne, "Get Out (Leave)" by JoJo, "Don't Bother" by Shakira, "Ain't It Funny" by Jennifer Lopez, "Over It" by Katharine McPhee, and "I Will Survive" by Gloria Gaynor. Whenever your mind starts mulling over the breakup and you start having doubts—tune in and turn it up!
10. Unplug & Recharge
Is the stress of your breakup starting to take a toll on your body? Are you running low on energy? Then you need a sanity day—take the day off of work, schedule a massage, facial, manicure, pedicure or whatever it is that makes you feel special and extraordinary. This day is all about you and reminding yourself of how special you are and worthy of being loved and spoiled. 5 Healthy Ways To Break Up With Your Ex
Even if finances don't allow you to do a full day of self-spoiling, spend the day doing something that you love—run a bubble bath, light a few candles. Be sure to turn off your phone and unplug yourself from the world around you. Pulling the plug on anything technological will allow you the emotional and energetic space to recharge your confidence batteries.
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