Dealing With And Letting Go Of Jealousy In Your Relationship

Love, Heartbreak

Contrary to popular belief, jealousy is not a sign of insecurity or weakness.

Irish writer Elizabeth Bowen once wrote, "Jealousy is no more than feeling alone against smiling enemies."

This simple statement sets a perfect scene in our minds of what jealousy feels like; Others are happy, overtly joyful or secretly mocking, while we're left alone to look like a fool.

A little jealousy in a romantic relationship is undoubtedly natural. Contrary to popular belief, jealousy is not a sign of insecurity or weakness. It can also be the way in which people express love.

If you're in a relationship, you'll inevitably have to deal with and overcome jealousy. However, handling such feelings in a relationship is not an easy task.

Jealousy can become an intense feeling and confuse your partner into believing that your relationship is threatened and unstable. If you feel threatened about your relationship due to jealousy, consulting a marriage counseling therapist can be a good idea.

This can especially be a trickier situation if you have tied the knot with someone your family and friends did not approve of. Especially during such situations, when you may not have the support of loved ones, marriage counseling can help a great deal.

Jealousy can crop up in various ways, but it is mainly caused due to lack of communication. Marriage counseling sessions can help you improve your communication with your partner.

You might feel jealous for various reasons. You might not like your partner going out with somebody else or you might become insecure about your relationship. Therapists can help you understand that your jealousy is either irrational or due to some misunderstandings with your partner.

It can also be one of the main reasons that spoil your relationship. Understand that jealousy does not bring you and your partner closer, but actually creates a wider gap between you both.

To get over your feelings, you should learn to trust your partner completely. Instead of doubting him or her unnecessarily, recover your confidence. Therapist will ask you to develop positive feelings towards your relationship rather than living with suspicion and heading towards a breakup.

The next time a partner engages in jealous-type behavior with you, remember to put the behaviors and feelings in context by considering whether the jealousy is new, or whether it reflects a longstanding pattern. If you’re in a relationship with someone who has a history of getting jealous, understand that the root of this type of behavior—insecurity, obsessiveness, or a paranoid personality—is not going away anytime soon. 

Counseling sessions can also help you understand that jealousy can be the result of misconceptions. It is mainly about how you see and perceive things. 

Jealousy might be an issue due to other outside factors including: 

A good therapist can teach you to be empathetic, and understand why your partner is behaving in a particular way, rather than assuming that he or she is getting attracted to someone else.


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