How To Build A Relationship With Your Teen

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How To Build A Relationship With Your Teen
Your fear can be the one thing that holds you back from having a great relationship with your teen.

Why This Shift Is Essential

  • It will help pave the way from successful teenager to adulthood;
  • It will give your teen a set of internalized rules to act as a guide when you aren't around;
  • It will help foster a sense of responsibility; and,
  • It will help create a resilient mindset.

So, as parents, how can this shift in parenting, change your relationship with your teen? By changing a few key ingredients and shifting to a more coach-approach model to parenting, this approach will not only change how you see your teens, but will change how you see your role as a parent.

How You Can Shift To A Coach-Approach Model To Parenting

  1. Change how you gain respect. We always feel that respect should be automatic, since we are the only reason why our children have the ability to have breath. If we start to think about the reasons why we should have respect as parents, we should also mirror those same qualities back to them.
  2. Change how you listen to your teen. Being a better listener is about understanding, figuring out how your child would like to be heard and making yourself accessible at those moments they would like to talk.
  3. Determine how you want to be appreciated. We all know parenting can be a thankless job and we more often than not won't communicate our frustrations with our teens unless it's through anger. So, talk to your teen about how you would like to be appreciated and how you will show appreciation for your teen.
  4. Change how you support your child. Figure out the type of support you will provide your teen based on mutually agreed issues in order to create consensus. If you have more than one teenager, plan an outing with them individually. It will show them you value them as a person.
  5.  Change how dependent your children are on you. By empowering your children to make choices, you give them the opportunity to fall and pick themselves up, or to thrive and soar. And their adventures will be something worth talking about.
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