Love, a fellow husband.
It would lead to much stronger, cohesive marriages, but most of time this never gets done because the husband has a hard time clearly articulating his feelings, or when he does, his wife still can't understand it. Well, without giving up my man card, I have found a woman who truly has taken the time to really understand what are men are thinking.
1. Men equate love with respect.
You may wonder how that's possible, but according to Feldhahn's study, men usually equate the two.
2. On the outside your husband may look like a strong man, but on the inside he feels like a scared little boy.
Most men have an inner vulnerability based on competing core needs and fears, and they do their best to keep it hidden.
3. If you "bring home the bacon" and fry it up in a pan, it will still bother him a little.
Most men don't just want to provide for their wife and families, it's a pressing NEED.
4. Sometimes your husband needs to retreat before he can engage.
Men, based on the wiring of their brain, just have a different way of addressing issues.
5. Lack of sex can also cause a lack of confidence.
Your man not only wants sex, he wants you to want it too. His confidence depends on it.
6. Men — even the happily married ones — struggle with the images of other women.
Men are usually hardwired to view images of attractive women, and it has little to do with his love for you.
7. Men ARE romantic ... they just have a different way of showing it.
Because of these differences, a man often won't take action to ensure he fulfills your needs because he feels like he doesn't know how.
8. Husbands won't care if you gain a little weight, as long as you continue to work at looking and feeling good.
He'll never admit it, but, in his mind, taking care of your body equates to you caring about him.
Don't get frustrated about your new findings or drill him about it either. Like a cheat sheet, you must keep this to yourself. (Otherwise, you'll fail Marriage 101.)
The goal is to gain a greater understanding of your husband's thoughts. So instead of asking WHY he does what he does, ask HOW you can better support and love him.
If you're still confused about why your husband does what he does, contact me, Coach Keith, at firstname.lastname@example.org for a free 30 minute consultation. I can give you the insight you need to strengthen your marriage.